Here’s the scoop: hunting for a partner is like chasing after a unicorn at a barbecue. Focus on being your fabulous self. It’s not just about dating; it’s a reflection of society’s obsession with instant gratification. We’ve become bargain hunters but forgot the value menu!

I first dipped my toes into the dating app waters five years ago—oh-so-naïve—dating back in the rad 80s was as cool as the tunes. Why bother with endless swipes and ghosting’s? It’s a digital jungle out there. The world is a mixture of people. We just need to know, which hand to shake & which hand to hold tight. After all that’s life…learning to hold on & learning to let go.

Sadly, we’re in a desert where genuine connections are like rare oases. Humans crave connection, yet the world’s lonelier than ever.

Guarantees? They’re for kettles and toasters, but if two people can embrace their humanness, weather the fun and the funk, and bring out the best in each other, we’ll learn from mistakes and get better, not bitter.

The true beauty of life is not how happy you are now, but how happy others are because of you!

Buckle up for the ride of life, where we may stumble upon each other. Just two kindred spirits, cruising through the ups, downs, and loop-de-loops, all while having a blast

I just wish the gents wouldn’t drop the classic, “It’s a shame you’re so far away!” peeps cross oceans for love, yet Aussies act like a couple hours on a plane is a marathon! Well, hurdle-jumping aside, maybe the takeaway is to enjoy the view and keep the comments to yourself. Ladies seem to get a tidal wave of messages compared to the fellas, and honestly, it’s a whirlwind trying to reply to them all.

“It’s a shame you’re so tall!”….

shrinking a few inches isn’t an option, but watch me rise like a runway model with my trusty high heels!

Aww, so many guys throw hurdles in the way… nothing’s flawless in life. If you’re hunting for perfection, you’ll be waiting forever—just saying. Hope you all have an absolutely fantastic time!

Wishing you all the best in your quest!

On the hunt for a reason to hit that delete button. Are you the chosen one?

5’11” / 180 cm. Slim. Virgo

• Doesn’t smoke
• White / Caucasian.Spiritual
• College graduate. Self-employed. Author (I dabble in a smorgasbord of genres! Kicked off with tasty foodie books, then took a leap into the world of self-help wisdom).
• Widowed. Has children at home
• Looking for ; Long term dating

Interests

• Rock
• Fine dining
• Foodie
• Festivals
• Writing
• Walking
• Yoga
• Gardening
• Meditation
• Self care

Story

I’m passionate about the little things in life, like hands in the soil, feeling the ocean breeze and listening to music. I also enjoy the contrast between walking barefoot on the beach and dressing up in heels for a night out.

As we all have our own histories, it’s reasonable to expect everyone to have baggage. Personally, I’ve taken my past experiences and transformed them into stylish luggage. My Life’s value is from the inside. You don’t hold on to the things that no longer serve you because you have everything you need within yourself.

My motto is simple: sprinkle kindness and positivity, treating others as I’d like to be treated.

Hey there, listen up! I’m on the lookout for a real man, not some one-night wonder or fling fling.

Age and distance are just numbers that can be swiped away with a quick drive or flight. I’m all about hand-holding, smooches, and a fella who values trust, loyalty, and honesty.

Let’s make some sweet music with that perfect combo of Best Friend Chemistry, Sexual Chemistry, and Mutual Respect.

There’s nothing better than the feeling of being understood and connected to someone special. Money can’t buy you love, so let’s trade in the real currency. Remember, life is a gift, so let’s enjoy every moment of it!

I’m tossing out this message in a bottle and can’t wait to see where it lands.

Perfect Match

Instead of hunting for a flawless match, I say pick a partner that’s a perfect fit. It’s about two people coming together, to bring the best out in each other.

A relationship built on mutual respect and emotional support, where we grow to understand each other’s quirks and share our deepest desires.

A bond that protects each other’s happiness and loves without limits. You don’t play games with their heart….you protect it like it’s your own.

Sure, syncing up on the same vibe is key, but the real magic? That’s the love and chemistry that’ll anchor your ship through any storms.

Love is flexible and kind. It is willing and open. It doesn’t cling to anything and is completely free. We become the best versions of ourselves within these relationships.

To find someone who leaves an imprint on your soul, who’s roots have entwined with yours, who looks at you as if you’re magic, who won’t ever stop fighting for you. They will show you the best version of you and grow with you!

No relationship is perfect, ever. But you don’t want it to be. You don’t grow when things are perfect. Perfect will never inspire or satisfy you. Perfect will never teach you.

Like a plant given the right soil, water, and sunlight, relationships can grow stronger every day.

Ideal Date

I’m a fan of spur-of-the-moment shenanigans and surprise escapades! Whether it’s an adventure tour, a restaurant hop, or playing tourist in your own backyard, there’s so much fun to be had beyond the typical date night. Light up a campfire and let the good times roll, just make sure it’s packed with laughter and connection. Like a well-lived life, don’t sweat the small stuff—just dive in and enjoy!

For a first date, nothing beats a casual trip to the local markets or a quick stop at a charming gallery, where we can chat and get to know each other. But, above all, the key to my heart is laughter and being present in the moment.

Let’s make some unforgettable memories, shall we?

Dream vacation

Though I’ve been jet-setting across the globe, exploring my own backyard is a must-do on my life’s checklist. There’s something special about sharing adventures with the right person, and I’m itching to pitch a tent by the beach and gaze at the starry sky. The twinkling constellations feel almost within reach, inspiring me to embark on my wildest dreams and aspirations.

Verification

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The Unwritten Laws of Love Online :

It’s vital to sync up with your partner on what your relationship’s ultimate destination looks like.

When selecting a partner, look for someone who makes your heart dance and brings joy to your soul!

There’s an old German nugget of wisdom that claims men dig things while women are all about people. So, along comes a study on dating, and the notebook reveal was hilarious!

Women were scribbling and spiralling over every tiny detail, while men were jotting about their bike projects. When a buddy asked how the date went, the guy shrugged and said, “Cool.” Meanwhile, the woman and girl pals were deep-diving into his social media—yikes! Sometimes I feel like I’ve inherited my dad’s “dude brain,” and, oh boy, that might just be my kryptonite!

WHAT ARE YOU SEEKING?

I’m looking for a man who I can connect with on a deeper level, someone who communicates openly and honestly, and who shares my values. I’m also drawn to someone who is kind, respectful, and who makes me laugh. Ideally, I’d want someone who is open to personal growth and is willing to work on building a strong and fulfilling relationship.

Top-notch belief system: treat others the way you’d want them to treat you. If you wouldn’t want it done to you or your daughter, give it a pass!

Both in it for fun and games? Fantastic!

Ready to dive deep and search for a lifelong partner? Fabulous! But if one’s planning the wedding while the other’s still playing the field, you’re cooking up a recipe for emotional disaster.

Aligning your values is not just a matter of compatibility; it is an essential step in creating a meaningful and lasting connection.

My desire is to seek someone special who deeply connects with my soul, sees my magic, and fights for me.

Such a person is rare and worth holding onto, despite imperfections and challenges.

If they remain by your side through tough times and distractions, cherish them and never let them go.

The lovebirds celebrating their 60th anniversary will gladly share the secret sauce: it includes sprinkling in laughter, peacefulness, mutual care, respect, kindness, give-and-take, understanding, seeing each other’s true selves, and embracing the whole package.

Always have each other’s backs. To find someone who leaves an imprint on your soul, who’s roots have entwined with yours, who looks at you as if you’re magic, who won’t ever stop fighting for you.

They might screw up. They might drive you absolutely crazy, they might frustrate the hell out of you.

They might make mistakes. And so will you. You’re human. But if they’re willing to never stop fighting for you, never leave when you hit bumps in the road, if they’ve never left when you got caught in the rain or when certain ‘options’ were trying to get their attention, please don’t ever let them go.

When picking a partner, find someone who gets your heart doing the cha-cha and makes your soul boogie with bliss! Sure, syncing up on the same vibe is key, but the real pixie dust?

That’s the love and chemistry that’ll anchor your ship through any wild waves. And as the lovebirds celebrating their 60th anniversary will gleefully share, sprinkle in a hearty laugh and remember—it’s all about attraction, trust, and always negotiating!

Yep, it’s a never-ending dance to keep the relationship growing.

How fabulous is that? 🎢✨

Take note: become the leading character in your own story!

A month after you’re no longer around, life continues. Only a handful of people—perhaps four or five—will genuinely remember you. It may sound harsh, but it’s reality.

Stop seeking validation from society and focus on what truly matters to you.

Prioritize self-love. The world doesn’t wait for anyone.

Some say that farting in front of each other is like the ultimate trust fall, but in the wackiest way possible. Yet, maybe there’s a spicier recipe for relationships—one that keeps a dash of mystery in the air.

I keep a tight lid on my gases around strangers, folks I’ll likely never see again, because why should they bear the brunt of my aromatic adventures? But why subject my partner, my numero uno, to this aromatic assault? It’s a head-scratcher!

I often ponder why those closest to us see our not-so-flattering sides.

I recall past flames and the epic battles we fought—words that would never see the light of day with friends or strangers. How did we manage that?

Those harsh words would never escape my lips with someone I barely know. I’ve grown since then, and I hope in my next romance, I’ll be a zen master of communication. My partner will glimpse my best self. And when my not-so-shiny side shows, it’ll be like a whisper of a fart—unnoticeable to the public.

If you embrace the art of open-air toots with your partner, go for it! That comfort level is a glorious thing. But for me, the fart is a symbol of something deeper.

It’s often said that giving is easier than receiving, yet we cannot offer what we have not first accepted. How can someone truly love if they have never experienced love?

This realization made Grandpa want to escape from the notion of gift-giving. He had made regrettable mistakes that hurt those closest to him. How could he ever make amends? For much of his life, he had wrapped himself in shame and guilt, focusing solely on his shortcomings.

How could anyone love him when he struggled to love himself?

He harboured deep self-contempt. Yet, hands reached out to him with gifts. In response, he quickly crossed his arms over his chest, thinking, “Protect myself, keep them out.

I won’t accept a gift I don’t deserve, a gift I haven’t earned.” The gift-giver walked away, saddened.

• Limiting Love

How much love can you truly accept? This is a profound question. What does it feel like to hear the words, “I love you”?

At times, it can be challenging to accept unconditional love—love that comes without strings, unearned.

When we finally unclasp our protective arms to receive a gift, we expose our hearts.

Try it: stretch out your arms and see how open you can be. Often, we prefer to limit love, avoiding the embarrassment of acceptance, wanting to maintain control.

“Who am I to receive such a significant gift?” you might wonder. You are amazing and absolutely worthy of receiving love.

We don’t like feeling needy or dependent on others.

However, we are inherently designed to be interconnected in ways that are mutually beneficial.

Not independent, nor dependent or codependent, but interdependent. We give, and we receive; we receive, and we give. Learning to accept is a battle against arrogance and self-sufficiency.

None of us are so self-sufficient that we don’t need each other.

We often dislike being vulnerable, revealing our needs and the flaws we try to conceal.

The journey of learning to receive is a gradual process, inch by inch, allowing safe people to give us what we struggle to find within ourselves.

When Grandma dropped wisdom bombs about being open to love, she was chatting directly to those who dodge or dance around intimacy like it’s a game of hot potato.

Picture this: if you’re dating with a fortress around your heart, what are you really guarding?

Often, it’s past heartbreaks, like the time someone played hooky with someone else. Instead of opening the gates to love, you might have turned your heart into Fort Knox, refusing to let anyone in, or bottling up emotions with a partner because trust has gone AWOL.

But here’s the kicker: bottled-up feelings tend to explode like a soda can in a paint mixer.

If you stay closed off during the dating phase, your relationship’s foundation might be as flimsy as a house of cards. Could be built on fleeting attractions or on showing only the polished version of you—hiding the messy, laundry-avoiding, clutter-loving parts.

Newsflash: vulnerability is the secret sauce for deep connections and solid relationships.

Enter dating or relationships with a stone heart, and guess what? You might get stone-hearted responses in return.

Hiding your quirks makes you intolerant of others’ imperfections, leading to nit-picky avoidance.

“Why does he laugh like that?” or “What’s with that shirt?” become your battle cries, and anyone who gets close is swiftly pushed away once emotions start to connect.

Grandpa Avoidance, before he turned a new leaf, would snap and get grumpy post-emotional chats, suddenly finding his partner’s laugh unbearable, or questioning compatibility over minor quirks like TV preferences or sweeping styles. If you find yourself dodging emotional connections, dig into what’s spooking you.

Love demands a full-bodied surrender, especially emotionally.

To unlock love’s door, aim for genuine connection, not a flawless façade.

Care about your date’s stories, engage with your partner’s tales, and lay your cards on the table—don’t play UNO with your heart!

Show your hand, share who you are, and watch connections blossom. Vulnerability is your backstage pass to love. Remember, taking a chance on love means risking hurt, but don’t let past heartbreaks turn your heart to stone. Embrace the chance to find a love that shatters your defences and transforms you.

Mending the heart post-break-up…

And here’s the grand finale: when a relationship hits the skids, don’t dodge your part in it. Give yourself time to heal, then examine your role without ego’s interference.

Skipping this step means you might just find yourself in a déjà vu romance, same issues, different partner.

Let your ego take a backseat, dive into self-reflection, and you’ll find it easier to open up to love.

Your future self will send you a thank-you card!

That one gem of a friend teaches you so much—months can go by without a peep, but when you finally reconnect, it’s like you never missed a beat! No drama, no endless explanations—just pure, dreamy friendship. That’s the kind of vibe you should have with a partner, no tiptoeing around or fearing abandonment. It’s all about trust and a love like no other.

Sounds simple, right? But some guys are like lost puppies, clueless about what they want, and quick to wreck what they’ve got.

Sad but true, many are raised to see women as objects, not equals. But hey, there are some good apples out there!

My best girl pal often reminds me that, like all good things, it’s wise to prepare for the unexpected, but you shouldn’t halt your entire life in anticipation. Additionally, perhaps while pursuing men, you might be overlooking the good ones who are interested in you. I certainly lacked dating experience, but after interviewing numerous couples and singles from our mermaids and unicorns over 50 ladies group, I gained so much sage advice and wisdom. What I do know is that you should take your time and refrain from giving your body to anyone until you can truly connect with their soul. Loyalty isn’t merely the opposite of infidelity; it’s about being there for someone and having their back. It’s perfectly fine to go out and enjoy time with your friends, but true loyalty, honesty, and trustworthiness are rare qualities. That’s why I cherish my own company and the many places I explore on my own.

You can’t flip people like pancakes, but pain? It turns into wisdom nuggets!

“Love” will go away just as swiftly or as gradually as it came.

A person may be good at heart, but if they harbour deep insecurities, it is very rare for those insecurities to not manifest in the form of cutting down or exploiting others (even in the most subtle of ways).

The worse the insecurity, the stronger the inclination.

Being book-smart does not mean a person knows how to sustain/improve themselves in other areas in life.

Sometime it’s not always 100% the other person’s fault for the harm they brought you. Even if they are truly toxic, your actions also contribute to the way things turn out, more often than not.

A person who is ‘loose’ and imprecise with their words is someone who cannot be trusted. What value are their words if they never mean what they say?

The more extremes present in the individual (i.e. extreme drug use, extreme shyness/confidence, extreme ideologies), the more intense the relationship will be.

Should a person be image-obsessed, expect them to expect you to go out of your way to maintain said image.

Do not try to attract someone based on a version of yourself that is not real. The more you put your best foot forward in the beginning, the more you will hesitate to be vulnerable with them later on.

Should you choose to remain in a relationship you’re unhappy in (presumably for empathetic reasons), you will subconsciously look for/create reasons to leave.

To summarize all these points in the most concise way possible, don’t underestimate the extent to which all your partner’s insecurities and problems (including those that are perceived) can become yours.

All too often, upon noticing major pitfalls, we like to stroke our ego by thinking we change/control the situation.

Once you’ve taken the plunge, the real work kicks in. And oh boy, it’s a doozy!

It’s chaotic, it’s painful, and it doesn’t follow a neat little path. Buckle up for the rollercoaster of ups and downs, and whatever you do, don’t slap a deadline on your feelings!

Trust me, I spent ages wondering, “When will this emotional storm pass?” But that just keeps the storm brewing. When the emotional waves hit, ride them and let them do their thing. Believe it or not, this is way healthier than playing hide-and-seek with your emotions or distracting yourself with shiny objects.

Dear friend, if life feels like a heavy backpack right now, here’s a little pep talk: you’ll wade through this! Your heart will mend, and soon enough, you’ll be a magnet for healthier folks once you let healing and awareness seep into those parts of you that got tangled up in a toxic mess.

So, when you’re reflecting on the lessons from toxic relationships, remember there’s a treasure trove of strength and goodness waiting in the aftermath. You’ll unearth old bits of yourself needing a hug and discover new bits yearning for a brighter life.

Reflect… it all begins in the mind.

Everything is rooted in awareness.

Attract what you need; desires create wants.

It’s all about vibration—energy! This is how we draw things into our lives. Overcome the fear of scarcity; the universe’s timing is perfect for everything. It’s essential to open our hearts.

Challenges won’t affect me. What you resist persists. Let go of self-doubt and embrace gratitude.

While you can’t change the past, you can begin from where you are and shape a new ending.

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