If her eyes can’t make you stop in your tracks and think about what you’re going to say next, you’re not in love with her. If her laugh doesn’t make you tense up at your knuckles thinking about never hearing it again, you’re not in love with her. If her voice can’t calm your worst anxiety and make you not want to listen to anything she has to say, you’re not in love with her.

If her smile doesn’t make your chest quake and your lungs shrink, but feel refreshed all in one motion, you’re not in love with her.

If lying to her doesn’t make your throat burn like you just downed six shots you’re not in love with her.

If her taking off her clothes is when you pay attention to her, you’re not in love with her.

Be careful about having relationships with people without empathy, they will never see or care about how you feel.

Be careful with peeps with no self awareness, they have no idea how their behaviour affects the people around them, so it’s a matter of time before you get hurt.

Be careful with peeps who have a habit of lying about minor details, making it difficult to distinguish truth from fiction and leaving you questioning your own reality. Additionally, they may experience intense mood swings, going from charming to cold in an instant. This instability is intended to keep you off-balance and more controllable.

If they are active on a dating site this only means that you are just an option and they are not serious at all. It is betrayal and cheating. Being high value, you want a person who will commit to you. “Forsaking all others…”

What happens after 2 years in a relationship?

Decision-Making Phase: 2-3 years

Everything is out, exposed, and on the table in this stage of a relationship. You probably know each other’s traumas, hang-ups, weaknesses, communication struggles, and most profound needs and fears. It’s all out there: You are fully emotionally in the nude. They leave and return – tell you what you want to hear. He may be giving you mixed signals because he’s afraid of commitment or he doesn’t know what he wants. It’s possible that he’s using you, either for sex, validation, or attention. If he’s your ex, he may be trying to win you back. He could be toxic, controlling, or playing games with your feelings.

Always let ghosting be the closure – let Casper be Casper – they don’t respect you👻

Don’t let them haunt you. They also ghost you because they know it is a good way to hurt you, plus they just don’t care. Some people who resort to the silent treatment is they grew up with it. Poor punishing communication method.

Relationship breakdown; Comes back to unrealistic expectations and childhood trauma. Hurt people hurt people!

You can’t communicate with someone who’s chosen to misunderstand you.

Do you want a fake lying person? ACCEPT that you don’t. No one deserves a liar to make decisions with. Let them find someone just like them. And they will be left when they can’t be used anymore.

In numerous situations, the partner who is demanding may feel neglected, while the silent partner may experience fear—choosing silence as a means to shield themselves from further hurt.

To address this problem, both partners must acknowledge their actions and strive to empathize with one another. It’s an important lesson, as someone who loved you sincerely has also been deeply hurt.

The trauma from experiencing the discard and betrayal by someone you loved and considered your best buddy leads to intense grief and psyche damage. It throws your reality and self esteem and ability to trust in yourself and others through the emotional ringer and can take a long time to come out of.

The person and relationship might have been fake, but you are grieving as if it is real.

This is truly heart-breaking. If you loved the wrong person that deeply, Imagine how much you‘ll love the right person.

You get discarded without warning, like a broken toy, and of no use – they will abandon you.

But in certain situations, even if a toxic breaks up with you, they can still come back.

It may sound like a nightmare, because it is.

It’s called the breakup cycle, where the manipulator monitors you to see if you can still stand up and move on.

When they realize you are done and you’re getting your life back, they will try to come back to you and ruin your life.

What you allow, will continue.

It is a pattern that we must break. We miss the relationship we never had. Your partner should be a safe haven, not a battle field.

They ghost you, because they no longer need you, they got what they wanted from you and will only call when they need you again – when no one else wants them.

Ghosting is a form of abuse anyone who does it is spiritually a monster – a damaged individual who is an ABUSER.

It’s a form of cowardice.

It shows tremendous emotional immaturity.

A lot of these people are avoidant attachments. Very cold hearted people. The silent treatment is like being “amputated” but shift your focus to healing yourself and see the silent treatment as the GIFT that keeps on giving – perception is everything! May everyday be Christmas for you!

Remember, light fights dark, love fights hate and authenticity fights fake. BE YOU! Take your power back and let the adventures begin, spoil yourself, go solo and go exotic places and do things that they promised but never delivered.

Continually breaking promises in a relationship can be incredibly damaging.

Make a promise to yourself: How many times does a promise need to be broken before I see this problem?

Only promise what you know you can do. Even if your partner seems disappointed at the time, he or she will learn to trust you when you do make a commitment.

I love the quote by Maya Angelou:

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Love is simple when we understand the true meaning of unconditional love.

The kind of love that transforms and transcends us as human beings to a higher level of consciousness, in those moments when we truly love, we become alive, we feel passion, we feel life in every breath.

Love is life, at the core of everything we do on this life path it is love that is the driving force.

“I am grateful to have been loved and to be loved now and to be able to love because that liberates. Love liberates. It doesn’t just hold — that’s ego. Love liberates. It doesn’t bind. Love says, ‘I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you if you’re in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.”

– Maya Angelou

With the world stage aside the facts are instead of strong, meaningful conversations and relationships, we struggle through long series of bad dates and so-called hook-ups.

Instead of meeting people in real life, we are constantly swiping and messaging somebody new.

Instead of telling people how we feel, we do not text back.

We no longer have people cancel, we get flaked on, and then we flake on other people.

We no longer date or commit, we “see” and “hang out” with each other.

We are complicit in a dating culture that systematically prevents intimacy. I believe and the evidence certainly supports this, that we have become a generation afraid of being in love.

One could say “We are complicit in a dating culture that systematically prevents intimacy”.

Best advice:

Don’t go above and beyond for people anymore. Meet them as far as they meet you. Speak to them as much as they speak to you, Include them as they include you.

Look for people in your life with emotional intelligence, self awareness, empathy and the ability to regulate their emotions or you will be at the mercy of their dysfunction and pay the price for their immaturity and lack of growth.

You don’t want to miss something beautiful in the here and now because you’re stuck in the past.

Michaela Thomas

The 3 C’s of life:

CHOICES, CHANCES, CHANGES

You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.

If they don’t see the value of having you, don’t try to convince them.

The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time, and it’s very limited. When you give your time to someone, that is something you can never get back so choose wisely who you decide to spend it on.

Make your life a safe haven, in which only compatible souls are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your job to exist for people and give your life to them.

So many doors will open when you realize that its okay to start over. Remember that.

Make a change that will give you the protection, happiness and the love you truly deserve.

In summary, our childhoods taught us to value love; but our institutions, cities, and technology have taught us to fear commitment and put choice first. We are trapped in a self-perpetuating cycle of emotional distance from each other.

Most of us really want love at some point, but our actions are at war with this desire.

We maintain an emotional distance because we fear commitment and rejection, not because that is our true self. We replace the feeling of true intimacy with short-term flings, long-term noncommittal hook-ups, and sex. We comfort ourselves knowing at least we’re not feeling the stinging pain of a broken heart, at least we don’t have to deal with real emotions. My belief is that we have trapped ourselves in a cycle that we are all complicit within.

One thing that we all share, however, is that having strong, positive relationships in our life is one of the keys to happiness and fulfilment. Even anecdotally, we know this to be true.

When we keep emotional distance because of the fear of rejection, we lose out on one of the most important aspects of being human. Deep inside, we know we are unfulfilled but we do not know how to fix ourselves. So, we play the game where there are no winners. We must break free from this culture that damages us all and learn to love again.

For most of us, improving our relationships is one of the best things we can do in our lives.

With this lightbulb moment and my newfound mission to be more open, honest, and refreshingly direct, I’ve not only levelled up my kindness game but also supercharged my friendships with my fabulous crew! And here’s the cherry on top: “love forever” isn’t just a fairy tale! Those heart-swirling, rock-solid relationships are totally doable with the special someone you call your love or spouse!

I’m done playing the dating game! I crave genuine emotional connections in both business and life.

In the end, don’t we all just want to bask in happiness and love with real folks?

Forget the theatrics—I’m all about those soul-deep connections, not being an extra in some staged romance!

Imagine meeting someone who wanted to learn your past not to punish you, but to understand how you needed to be loved.

Find someone who’s Real.

Find someone who wants to authentically learn who you are as a person.

Find someone who lets you know from the very beginning, if they have genuine intentions.

Find someone who isn’t just a ” lover “, but a friend, a partner, a mentor, someone who you can come to when life is so hard, and you feel like giving up and they are there to pick you back up on your feet.

Find someone who respects you and your children.

Find someone who shows you the definition of effort.

Find someone who takes a day off work when you’re sick to make sure you’re taken care of.

Find someone who motivates you to do better in life because relationships are more than just falling in love. It’s about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourselves day in and day out.

Find someone who is patient with you and are guided by morals and reasoning.

Find someone not only to love, but someone to grow with, learn from and to share new experiences with.

Find someone who’s willing to understand you.

Find someone who admits when they are wrong.

Find someone who understands it’s not about giving you the world, it’s about making you feel like you’re the only one in it.

Take my advice and wait for someone who touches your heart in ways you never thought were imaginable.

—Cody Bret,

The want comes from the heart 😍😍😍

“Love? Pfft, that’s just a tiny word for this whirlwind in my heart!

For the very first time, I’ve found my reason to inhale the sweet air of life. I’m completely spellbound by every little thing I’ve discovered about you, and trust me, I’ve only scratched the surface!

My mission? To uncover every hidden treasure in your dazzling body and soul.

I’ll guard and cherish you like you’re the last slice of pizza at a party!

So, do I love you? Nah… I LOVE LOVE LOVE you!”

There’s a kind of love that poetry can’t capture, that music can’t play, and that even dreams can’t fully paint. It’s the love I feel when I’m with you. It’s laughter in the rain, gentle caresses in the morning sun, and shared dreams under a blanket of stars.

We don’t just make memories; we craft moments that turn into stories we’ll tell the moon and the stars when no one is listening. You and I, hand in hand, writing chapters of adventures, smiles, tears, and a love that only grows deeper with time.

Your voice is my favourite song, your smile is my brightest day, and your love is my greatest adventure.

Let’s promise to always hold each other close, to dance to the rhythm of our hearts, and to create a lifetime of moments that will never fade.

Because with you, every second is a blessing, and every day is a dream I never want to wake from.

I’m super grateful for all the sweet and lovely words about my black and white dress-up day for “Derby Day”!

I strutted my stuff solo at a fabulous event in Flinders Lane.

But here’s the juicy bit—I’ve really had to push myself out of my cosy bubble.

If you’d told me a decade ago that I’d be doing this, I would’ve laughed and said, “No way, José!”

Yet, through all the ups and downs, I’ve discovered that from grief springs a fountain of love, and I’m so thankful for everyone who’s sprinkled a little of that love into my life.

Remember, you’re never too old to chase those dreams!

A little encouragement goes a long way.

I’m all about H.O.P.E—helping one person every day!

And let me tell you, I learned that giving feels like a breeze, but accepting?

That’s a whole different ballgame! It’s too easy to let that pesky doubt worm its way in—like, “Am I good enough?” or “What will they think of my ego?” But hey, we’ve got this!

And then came the glorious WHITE day—think pristine beaches, fluffy white sand tickling your toes, chic white outfits, and a feast fit for royalty! Throw in some tunes and a sprinkle of new pals, and you’ve got a recipe for pure paradise! LOVE! LOVE! LOVE!

Life’s too fleeting to tiptoe around like we are stepping on eggshells! Sometimes the people you wanted as part of your story, are only meant to be a chapter.

We grow from our blunders and bold moves. So, strut your stuff, get wise about yourself, set those boundaries, and remember—you’re a treasure worth cherishing!

If you’re shaking in your boots, like “wet-my-pants” terrified, congratulations!

You’re totally ready!

And if you’re sitting there cool as a cucumber, don’t sweat it—just means you’re a little quirky.

But hey, we all have our quirks, my friend! It’s part of the adventure.

So, sprinkle in some faith, trust, and most importantly, LOVE!

When the going gets tough, just crank up the love dial a little more, and we’ll tackle it all together.

Now, if you’re scratching your head thinking, “What if I don’t have a dream?” or “What if I have a million dreams and can’t choose just one?” Don’t worry, fellow dreamer!

I’ve got your back, ready to light up your path and help you ignite that fiery passion!

Shine bright! Sending you all the good vibes and warm hugs, xoxo!

Lynnie

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