By Lynnie Stein / September 19, 2022

“Will you…Hold my hand for a little while? Clear your mind

I don’t need you to save me

No need for you to fix anything

No need for you to hold my pain

But will you simply hold my hand?

I do not need your words

Your thoughts

Nor your shoulders to carry me

But will you sit here a while with me

Whilst my tears they stream

Whilst my heart it shatters

Whilst my mind plays tricks on me

Will you with your presence let me know that I am not alone, whilst I wander into my inner unknown?

For my darkness is mine to face

My pain is mine to feel

And my wounds are mine to heal

But will you sit with me here, while I courageously show up for it all my one?

For I am bright because of my darkness

Beautiful because of my brokenness

And strong due to my tender heart

But will you take my hand lovingly, when I sometimes journey into the dark?

I don’t ask for you to take my darkness away

I don’t expect for you to brighten my day

And I don’t believe you can mend my pain

But I would surely love it if you could sit for a while and hold my hand, until I find my way out of my shadowland!

So will you…Hold my hand until I return again?

if it’s meant to be, it will be.

you won’t have to force, convince, or worry over it.

let it flow, let it be, and let it come to you.

you’re attracting everything you need.

trust the timing of your life.

“Just forget about the “what ifs” and “buts”.

Spread your wings and fly.”

Why do we hold on to someone ?

Humans are biologically wired to become attached to what’s familiar. 

Which is why we hold onto things even if they are bad for us.

How to move on?

She said she was okay and you believed her?

Let me tell you what’s really wrong with her.

She’s tired.

That’s exactly what she is, tired.

She’s tired of getting hurt, tired of being let down, she’s tired of all his lies, she’s tired of all her flaws and insecurities.

She’s tired.

Now she is not tired. She sleeps with purpose. She wakes with purpose
  • Second, I learn how to regulate my breathing.
  • Deep, deep slow inhales, slow, long exhales.
  • Do it again. And again. 5-4-3-2-1
  • This doesn’t work immediately but I keep at it.
  • Your own breath is going to save you.
  • You have a life-saving mechanism within you at all times.
  • Doesn’t that stun you with its beauty?
  • I meditate.
  • Find an app that teaches you how.
  • My very favourite is BoHo Beautiful. There is a meditation course that I consider life-changing.
  • I do not represent BoHo Beautiful in any way, or get compensated in any way to mention them.
  • Then – and what I am about to tell you will sound preposterous and impossible, but stay with me
  • I attack all of my obsession and woowoo craziness and impulses and pain with a mega powerful anti-craziness nuclear device: gratitude.
  • I make a list every day of all the things I am grateful for in this person who has me obsessed.
  • Thank you for ripping my fucking heart out and stomping on it.
  • Thank you for teaching me about pain.
  • Thank you for teaching me about loss.
  • Thank you for hurting me.
  • Thank you for loving me.
  • Thank you for teaching me who I don’t want to be.
  • Grateful to remove everything that doesn’t serve me

Bringing others down will never lift you out of your own pit or solve your problem

Morgan richard olivier

Whatever you desire, you attract.

Whatever you expect, you get.

Whatever you imagine, you become.

  • Only dead people don’t have expectations.
  • As long as you are connected to the living, you have hope, things can change, so live every day of your life with great expectations.
  • Today, increase your goals, dream bigger, fuel those desires, increase your expectations, stop settling for less.
  • As far as you can see, you can have, as big as you think, you can become.
  • It’s a great day to expect something great.

Every day, 5, 10, 15, 20 things I am grateful for.

I make them different every day.

I have slowly transformed my obsession and fury and anger into happiness & gratitude.

It changes everything.


No duty is more urgent than giving thanks.”

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.”

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

  • And, the very last biggie.
  • Compassion.
  • Towards myself. I love you, Amia. I love you.
  • I love you even when you become this person that would be easy for me to hate or feel ashamed of.
  • I love you just the way you are, all your flight and excess, your ferocious, unreasonable heart and your ravenous desires.
  • I love you.
  • I love you and am terribly sorry for the role I played in putting you in this place of pain.
  • Let’s get out of here.
  • Let’s you and me go find a better way.

There can be no compassion if there is no empathy, and one cannot empathize if he doesn’t know compassion.

It is not easy to bear someone else’s suffering or feel someone else’s heartbreak. But with a heart of pure kindness, it is possible to feel empathy.

“Empathy is really the opposite of spiritual meanness.

It’s the capacity to understand that every war is both won and lost. And that someone else’s pain is as meaningful as your own.” 

Barbara Kingsolver

“Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life.” 

Jackie Chan


I will not under value myself:

I will not allow others to under value me

because …


You are worthy and don’t forget it!!!

Keep your head up and your feet under you.

There are far better things ahead.


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