Whenever you find yourself starting to miss someone you really loved…
But perhaps someone who just didn’t appreciate you.
Someone who just didn’t care about how you felt.
Someone who you loved so much, but someone who just treated you like an option.
I can’t be a giver anymore, I want to be loved, nourished, taken care of, spoiled and prioritized.
Not just by words, by actions too.
Stop for a moment, and remember…
Remember the disrespect.
Remember all the times when your feelings didn’t matter and were invalidated.
Remember how your worth was completely disregarded.
Remember when your boundaries were ignored time and time again.
Remember what they deliberately and knowingly did to break your trust over and over again.
Remember all the times you begged them for the basics and you begged them to treat you as though they loved you, but they still refused.
Remember how it made you feel.
Remember just how much it hurt.
Remember how disappointed you felt.
Remember how betrayed you felt.
Because this was real.
This was how you really felt.
This was someone’s version of love for you…
It’s normal to miss someone who you once loved, especially if the love you felt for them was genuine and ran deep;
but it’s so important to remember all of the reasons why the relationship didn’t work out, instead of just remembering the good times and the happy memories.
Respect yourself by remembering how you really felt, because in doing so you’re honouring yourself and validating your emotions.
Use these memories that were your reality to reassess and reaffirm your boundaries, values, and what’s important to you in a relationship.
Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect.
You deserve to be treated with kindness.
You deserve to be heard with empathy, love, and understanding.
You deserve to have your feelings and needs cared about.
And you deserve to feel emotionally safe because you trust the person you love to look after your heart and do the right thing by you.
Because when you’re in a relationship, these things are NOT optional extras.
They are the non-negotiable basic foundations!
Don’t allow someone who won’t give this to you to continue to treat you less than you deserve.
And don’t settle for a love, that’s less than the love you deserve…You truly deserved a love that doesn’t deplete you. A love that gives more than it takes. You are worthy of that.
Imagine all the past versions of yourself, standing right in front of you!
Mine are all smiling back at me.
They are so proud of me.
Because I beat what they are going through.
Beat the things that tried to kill and destroy, the person who cried themselves to sleep; the one who drink-sobbed on a night out; the one who went through something traumatic again and again, with thoughts that life was broken beyond repair.
Because of my strength, I am still here in the present moment, in spite of what happened to those past versions.
So grateful, I got all of them through this to be where I am today – alive!
Swapped the fear to love and met and fell in love with the person that the world kept her from becoming…
admit when she was wrong, apologize without excuses and view the mistakes as opportunities for her growth.
You only on the pedestal …
When you put someone on the pedestal, you place yourself below them and project onto them the parts of yourself that you feel you lack.
She betrayed her on beliefs and boundaries, just to please them.
Consider you are already knocked off. You’re not in love with them, they are just mirroring back to you the greatness that already exists within you.
Tap into that power. Life’s short …your deserve better. I got sick of hearing it…No-one likes to hear “YOU DESERVE BETTER” But the light bulb moment – you have to acknowledge to change that self worth and you are allowed to unapologetically break up with people, based on the simple facts that they are not enough.
Give yourself that permission.
If they miss you, they’ll call. If they want you, they’ll say it. If they care, they’ll show it.
And if not, they aren’t worth your time.
Women have 4 types of showers
Let’s say some affirmations together & we will shout it from the rooftops together – I LOVE YOU!
1. Quick body wash
2. Hair and body wash
3. Yes Queen (exfoliate, shave, condition hair)
4. Stare at the wall, evaluate all life decisions, and hope the water washes away your stress.
“Tears of the Strong”
Strong people wear their strength like armour, shielding the world from seeing their cracks.
They carry the burdens of others, mend hearts that aren’t theirs, and whisper words of hope even when their own voices tremble.
But when the night comes and the world grows quiet, their strength gives way to silence.
It’s in those moments, under the dim glow of the moon, that the weight becomes too much.
They cry—not for weakness, but because their hearts need release.
They cry for the battles they’ve fought in silence.
They cry for the pain they’ve endured without complaint.
They cry because they’ve spent so much time holding others together, they’ve forgotten how to heal themselves.
The strongest people know the value of tears.
They know that crying doesn’t diminish their strength—it amplifies it.
It’s a reminder that they’re human, that their struggles are real, and that even the strongest need to break sometimes to rebuild.
These quiet tears are sacred.
They’re the proof of resilience, the evidence of a soul brave enough to face its shadows.
When morning comes, these same strong people will rise again, their hearts a little lighter, their spirits a little stronger, ready to face the world once more.
So if you ever find yourself crying in the solitude of the night, remember this: you’re not breaking. You’re healing. And that, in itself, is strength.
Chant this!
I love me.
I am beautiful.
I am enough.
I am a vibrant, gorgeous creation of the Divine Source within me.
Everything about me is fabulous.
My energy in this world is needed and required.
Who I am and what I have to offer is important.
I matter.
Everything is available to me.
I am beautiful/handsome.
I am perfect.
I am magnetic.
I am the one being chased.
I am lovable.
I am a powerful creator of my own life experience.
I love life.
I enjoy each delicious moment that I get to experience this physical existence.
I fully engage with and in life.
I am meant to be here.
I am a gift to this life.
I am fabulous.
I am worthy.
I am enough.
I am loved.
I am safe.
I am the CEO of my world.
I am the architect of my fate.
I am the creator of my destiny.
I am the captain of my ship.
I make the decisions.
I am in charge.
I am in control.
I am safe to succeed.
I am a successful human being.
I am a powerful magnet to everything good in this world.
I am significant.
Love doesn’t have to hurt.
My trauma is not my fault, I forgive my parents & their parents & so on, because they didn’t know better.
I’m free to create a new path.
To invite a little lovebug into your life, start by showering yourself with some serious self-love!
Here’s a fun idea: record yourself saying all those sweet things you’ve always craved to hear.
(Feel free to sprinkle in your own compliments and affirmations—go wild!)
Speak gently and at a snail’s pace, giving your subconscious the chance to soak it all in, one lovely word at a time.
Why, you ask? Because darling, you are absolutely lovable and totally worthy!
Wishing you all the blessings on your fantastic journey! Xo, Lynnie
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Lynette Stein is here to light the way from loneliness to love and a life filled with purpose.
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