We are often afraid of riding that one lonesome exhilarating wave that defines us. I’d much rather define my happiness from the work that I do and the ideas that I produce in the confines of my solitude, than seek happiness in the cushioning retreat of companionship / relationship.

The secret to loving your own company? Hit the mute button on that chatty mind of yours!

Your natural state is bliss and chill vibes, but mental chatter can turn that peaceful oasis into a noisy junkyard of discontent.

Relying on someone else for happiness?

That’s the ultimate trap! The only ticket to your joyride is YOU, my friend.

Feeling a little empty?

Time for a self-love scavenger hunt! I learned the hard way through co-dependency that my worthiness wasn’t tied to someone else’s sweet gestures. Nope! People will treat you well when they’re feeling good about themselves, and their bad days? That’s on them, not you!

Embrace solitude! Seriously, no friends, no dates, just you and your fabulous self. That’s where you’ll discover your best buddy is… drumroll please… YOU!

Fill up that emotional cup and bond with yourself!

Chat to yourself like you would with your bestie, take yourself out for ice cream, or hike solo.

It’s all about enjoying your own company and ditching that “I need someone” mindset.

Now, let’s talk about hobbies! What tickles your fancy? Taking a bubble bath, binge-watching Netflix, or sweating it out at the gym? Bingo! Those little delights are what fill your happiness tank.

You don’t find happiness; you create it—because trust me, seeking joy from the wrong crowds is a one-way ticket to a not-so-fun place.

Stay mindful and keep that mind open! Ask yourself the tough questions: “Why do I think I need someone to fill my emptiness?”

A guest speaker in our fabulous unicorn and mermaid 50+ squad dropped a truth bomb on me: “Where focus goes, energy flows.”

So, be mindful of what thoughts you’re feeding your noggin! Embrace those small joys!

For me, washing my car or painting my little grandies nails brings pure bliss. Going for walks and soaking in sunsets? Count me in! Little by little, you’ll learn to cherish your own company. And here’s a gem for you: the next time you’re dining solo at a swanky restaurant, remember—you’re not alone; you’re out with your number one fan, showering yourself with 100% unconditional love!

I now have a deep appreciation for solitude. While I enjoy spending time with others—whether it’s hanging out, having fun, or discussing global ideas—there’s nothing quite like the bliss of being alone.

I cherish the few hours of freedom and alone time I have each day. It’s during these moments that I focus on my true passions, away from the noise and chatter of those around me. For me, genuine happiness is found in the wisdom and tranquillity that arise from solitary reflection. I immerse myself in wonderful books, writing, cooking, listening to music, walking my dog, and pondering significant ideas. I’ve created a dedicated study space where I can spend my free hours reflecting, learning, and truly connecting with the person I aspire to be.

If you’ve never felt the warm fuzzies of love, you might not even know what you’re missing!

It can be tough to stay motivated on your self-improvement journey if you haven’t yet discovered the pure joy of loving yourself and spreading that love like confetti.

So, remember this: the only way to unlock the ultimate treasure on this planet—the glorious act of sharing love—is by diving deep into your inner work!

Self-acceptance and self-love are like the secret sauce for navigating this wild ride called life.

But here’s the kicker: it’s not just about shouting “Love yourself!” from the rooftops; it’s more like, “Hey, love yourself a smidge before showering someone else with affection!”

So, what’s the deal for those of us still learning to like ourselves?

This whole self-love gig often sounds like there’s a magic finish line we’re all sprinting toward, complete with confetti and champagne—oh, wouldn’t that be fun?

But spoiler alert: life isn’t a straight highway, and neither is self-love.

I’m still working on the whole self-acceptance thing (because let’s be real, love feels like a tall order).

And guess what? I’m not alone!

We can absolutely love others, even if we’re still figuring things out ourselves—and that’s vital.

We humans are social creatures, and when we’re feeling like the bottom of the barrel, it’s easy to pull away. I’ve seen this in my social work gig and through my own mental health rollercoaster.

Those of us wrestling with self-love often need a little outside love to remind us we’re worthy of it.

And everyone, regardless of their self-love journey, craves connection—we’re wired that way!

We need to be each other’s cheerleaders through the messiness of life, and boy, do we all have our fair share of that!

When people love us for our quirky selves, it helps us see our own worth. If I took the “love yourself first” mantra to heart, I’d be a sad, lonely potato without my awesome friends. Nope, I refuse to believe I don’t deserve them—especially after all the hard work I’ve put into challenging that notion!

It’s been a journey to realize that human connection is just as vital as food, water, and, yes, even a ShamWow! Sure, catchy phrases can be fun and mostly harmless, but this one deserves a little shake-up. A better remix might be: “You can love others while figuring out how to love yourself.”

Let’s ditch the clichés and sprinkle a little more kindness on ourselves and each other.

Now, that’s a motto I can get behind!

Stop twiddling your thumbs!

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We often choose the adventure route, making memories and sharing experiences instead of just handing over gifts… but hey, that doesn’t mean we totally ignore today!

Give yourself as many second and third chances as you’ve given other people. For we are healing and part of that is forgiving. Forgive those who caused pain. Sprinkle them with love and healing vibes, and watch yourself shine brighter than a disco ball!

The great thing about life is we can always choose to change things

So, what’s on the agenda for tomorrow? Maximize the good vibes in record time! And next year? I’ll be outdoing my own goodness like it’s a competition!

What about my life? Aim for Paradise and focus on today—no procrastination allowed!

With your daughter? I’ll play her biggest fan, listening and guarding her, and reassure her that motherhood is just as fabulous a choice if she wants it. My parents? I’ll act in a way that makes their sacrifices worth it.

For my son? I’ll inspire him to be the ultimate Son of The Universe.

The stranger? He’s getting an invite to my humble abode and a brotherly welcome.

A fallen soul? I’ll lend a hand but won’t wallow in the mud with them.

What about the world? I’ll strut my stuff, acting like existence is more precious than non-existence. Educating my people? Sharing what I truly treasure, of course!

When it comes to a torn nation, I’ll stitch it back together with words that ring true.

A lying man? Let him spill his secrets so we can see the real him.

The enlightened? I’ll swap him out for someone actually seeking enlightenment, because there’s no end to that quest.

So what if I despise what I have? I’ll remember those with nothing and snatch up some gratitude.

And if I’m stuck? It might be my ego getting in the way of using what’s right in front of me. When greed claws at me, I’ll remember that giving is the real jackpot! If I’ve messed up my rivers, I’ll search for living water to cleanse the Earth.

When my enemy shines? I’ll aim higher and thank the universe for the lesson!

Tired and impatient? I’ll gratefully grab that helping hand.

Aging? I’ll swap youthful potential for mature accomplishments—because a life well-lived justifies its bumps!

With my little one gone?

I’ll hug my loved ones tight and help heal their hearts.

In a tight spot? I’ll zoom in on the next right move.

To strengthen my spirit? No lies, no despicable deeds!

To honour my body? Only use it for my soul’s service.

Tough questions? They’re the keys to life’s path!

The poor? I’ll lift their spirits through my actions.

And when the crowd calls? I’ll stand tall and share my beautifully broken truths!

Always remember: Don’t chase those who don’t value you. Respect yourself always.

Don’t force bonds or conversations. Stay in your lane.

Don’t force people to choose you or to do what you hope they’d do. They’re not going to move in your direction because you pressed play.

You can be the kindest and most loving person, but it won’t make everyone appreciate or reciprocate your efforts and love. On the contrary, some people may even take that as a weakness.

So friend, balance how much you give and don’t stay where you feel you’re not wanted.

Let people do what they want to do so you’ll know what they rather do. 😍

Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder, but oh boy, can it be a double-edged sword!

The dilemma with stunning folks is especially the average Joes and Janes, often see them as untouchable goddesses and gods. So, instead of striking up a convo, they just admire from a distance like they’re the latest art exhibit. This leaves our average crew sticking to their own kind! But wait, there’s more!

Good-looking peeps can sometimes think they’re not so hot themselves. Why?

Because they fall into the rabbit hole of comparison, feeling like they’re in a beauty contest with Hollywood stars and runway models. When they can’t quite reach those dazzling heights, they think they fell short—cue the dramatic music! And let’s not forget the giggle-worthy reason: they get approached by folks they never imagined would dare to say “hi.” This leads to the hilarious belief that this is all they deserve, like they’re stuck in a beauty bubble that’s just a tad too small.

Who knew looks could come with such a wild rollercoaster of emotions?

In my book, beauty sparkles from a radiant soul and magnetic charm! Sure, it can feel like a double-edged sword, and the road to self-acceptance is a wild ride, especially when you’re dodging those pesky folks who love to point out flaws just to keep you guessing about your own sparkle.

But guess what? True beauty shines when everyone struts their stuff with a kind heart, proving that the real glow comes from within!

Finally, keep this in your back pocket: The future is bursting with better things than anything we’ve left in the rear-view mirror. Clinging to anger? That’s like sipping poison and hoping the other person keels over! When you lose someone who meant the world to you, remember to treat yourself with kindness… because hey, I love you!

Happy days, party people! 🎉 Sending love and confetti your way! Always, Lynnie. ❤️