So here’s the deal: hunting for a partner is like searching for a unicorn in a haystack.
Instead, live your life like a carefree breeze, and love will sneak up on you when you least expect it.
Let’s face it, most online daters are patching up their own potholes. Why settle for “meh” just because you’re feeling lonely? Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, and you’ll naturally attract your perfect match without the desperation dance.
Thank you, Richard Logan, for this golden nugget of wisdom! It’s not just about dating; it’s a mirror to society’s obsession with instant gratification. No wonder mental health issues are skyrocketing among the young. We’ve become price-savvy but value-clueless!
I’m giving dating apps a hard pass. Why bother with endless swipes and ghostings when someone newer and shinier comes along? It’s a digital jungle out there—I’ve encountered serial liars, ex-lovers, married men, and emotional vacuums. It’s a soul-crushing circus, and I’m not buying a ticket.
Sadly, our social skills are taking a nosedive, thanks to social media and its “situationships.” We’re in a world where genuine connections are rare. Convincing myself that flying solo is better, even if it’s not what I always wanted, is the new reality check.
Don’t spin her wheels pretending to be someone you’re not. Golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated—it’s the dating profile anthem! So, scribble down what led you here and who you’re really aiming to be, then go be that fabulous self!
Best Religion: Act onto others as you wish them to act onto you. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want done to you. Ask yourself – would you want it done to your daughter?
People don’t commit. They don’t see the point. They’ve always said there are so many fish in the sea, but never before has that sea been right at our fingertips; a simple left or right swipe away. Bumble, Tinder, Hinge; Facebook, IG; take your pick. They can order up a human being in the same way we can order up Pad Thai. Social media has ruined the idea of relationships for an entire generation; where “great” is replaceable and perfect doesn’t exist. We think intimacy lies in a perfectly-executed string of emojis. We think effort is a “good morning” text. We say romance is dead, because maybe it is. Maybe romance now is putting the phone down long enough to look in each other’s eyes at dinner. Maybe romance is deleting Tinder off your phone after an incredible first date with someone.
Maybe romance is still there, we just don’t know what it looks like now.
When people choose—if they commit—they are still one eye wandering at the options. They want the beautiful cut of filet mignon, but still too busy eyeing the mediocre buffet, because of choice. Choices are killing us.
We think choice means something.
We think opportunity is good. We think the more chances we have, the better. But, it makes everything watered-down. Never mind actually feeling satisfied, we don’t even understand what satisfaction looks like, sounds like, feels like. We’re one foot out the door, because outside that door is more, more, more. We don’t see who’s right in front of our eyes asking to be loved. We long for something that we still want to believe exists. Yet, we are looking for the next thrill, the next jolt of excitement, the next instant gratification. We keep running on a treadmill for purpose and fulfilment, but these terms are merely carrots-on-a-stick we will never catch because we treat happiness as a destination, not a journey.
We expect to look up and suddenly be happy one day, like a switch was flipped. Guess what; bad days will always exist. But so will the good ones. Happiness is not found in our friends, partner, profession, or things; rather it’s a individual mindset found through consistent maturity handling your shit like a boss.
We soothe ourselves and distract ourselves and, if we can’t even face the demons inside our own brain, how can we be expected to stick something out, to love someone even when it’s not easy to love them?
We bail. We leave. We see a limitless world in a way that no generation before us has seen.
We can open up a new tab, look at pictures of Portugal, pull out a Visa, and book a plane ticket.
We don’t do this, but we can. The point is that we know we can, even if we don’t have the resources to do so. There are always other tantalizing options. Open up Instagram and see the lives of others, the life we could have. See the places we’re not traveling to. See the lives we’re not living. See the people we’re not dating. We bombard ourselves with stimuli, input, input, input, and we wonder why we’re miserable.
We wonder why we’re dissatisfied. We wonder why nothing lasts and everything feels a little hopeless. Because, we have no idea how to see our lives for what they are, instead of what they aren’t.
The Hidden Trauma That Holds Us Back
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We’re adjusting our unicorn horns and giving ourselves a generous dose of vibrant love!
Uncover the true essence of love free from compromise or societal pressures, even if past heartaches linger in your thoughts.
How can you discover an authentic love that appreciates you beyond societal norms and material desires?
Is it possible to find true happiness without a partner, and what does a genuine relationship feel like in today’s world?
If these questions resonate with you, know that you are not alone. Many individuals, including seasoned romantics, grapple with societal expectations and disappointments.