You have to let a man, who was never on your level to begin with, go right back to what he was used to. You’re not for everyone, and he’s not for you.

This is your reminder that the love you want exists, and it doesn’t come with begging.

There’s a kind of love that doesn’t leave you questioning if you’re too much.

It doesn’t leave you doing everything alone. It doesn’t make you beg for help, or affection, or to be noticed. It meets you where you are, and stays.

So, wait for him.

Wait for the man who doesn’t let you carry the weight of everything on your own.

Wait for the man who sees when you’re tired without you even having to say it out loud.

Wait for the man that will carry you to bed when you fall asleep on the couch.

Wait for the man who will stay up with you and your scary thoughts, while the rest of the world is sleeping.

Wait for the man who will always kiss you at 6 am when he’s leaving for work.

Wait for the man who makes you crack a smile, even when you’re so annoyed with him.

Wait for the man who sees your mental health going back down, and pushes you to do things for yourself.

Wait for the man who wants to know your love language, and will put the effort into learning about it.

Wait for the man who is secure in himself, so he always pushes you to be yourself.

Wait for the man who doesn’t have an issue saying “I’m sorry, I should have handled that better..”

Wait for the man who cuddles you to sleep and cuddles you anytime of the day, and it makes you so feel safe, that you never want to let go.

Wait for the man that you would be proud of, if you’re daughter was with him.

Wait for the man who doesn’t like scary movies, but will stay up watching them with you because he knows you love them.

Wait for the man who has to fall asleep touching you, even if it’s just his feet.

Wait for the man who goes out with his friends, but calls to check in just to say he misses you.

Wait for the man who is so tired from working all day, but comes home with energy, and can instantly switch in to dad/husband mode.

Wait for the man who will sit on the same side of the booth as you at a restaurant, just to be closer to you.

Wait for the man who always does what he says he’s going to do.

Wait for the man who will drive the long road trips, because highways give you anxiety.

Wait for the man who doesn’t complete you.

Wait for the man that inspires you to complete yourself, with his support and guidance.

Wait for the man, who you think may not exist, because you are “asking for too much”.

When you wait for the right man, you will realize, you were never asking for too much.

When you wait for the right man, he will make all of the arguments and rough days, feel like just small bumps along the road.

When you wait for the right man, he will show you how warm, safe, and beautiful love really is.

• Caitlin Fladager