“Nothing should be forced…
My career kicked off selling shoes with the most delightful family, who taught me invaluable lessons at the tender age of 15. Oh, the love affair with quality shoes began then! I fondly recall Mrs. Lambert’s wise words: “If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t force it.” Thanks a million, Laura!
“One shoe can change your life.”
Cinderella
You were my tight shoe
– Are you still angry with me? Do you hate me?
– I was never angry, nor do I hate anyone…
– Then why…
– Are you asking why not? Why can’t I, why can’t we? …Because you were my ‘tight shoe.’
– I don’t understand this right now. What kind of tight shoe?
– It’s a metaphor. You know, every woman has a beautiful pair of shoes that she loves but can’t wear because they hurt her feet.
In a moment of desire, in a weak moment, she bought them, but she can’t wear them.
So she just keeps those shoes and sometimes tries to stuff them or stretch them…
but the pain is too great.
Eventually, she decides and takes them off. And… she simply walks away, relieved.
She feels very sorry, but you can’t live with constant pain.
You can try. You can struggle.
You were my tight shoe…”
Searching for a life partner is like shoe shopping: be picky and patient!
Just as you wouldn’t squeeze into a shoe that doesn’t fit, don’t force a connection or settle just because you’re weary of flying solo. Find your perfect shoe and step into a happily-ever-after!
Scoring the Dream Team Partner
A healthy relationship is not finding the perfect match, it’s about choosing an ideal mate…where two independent people make a deal they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.
- **Be Choosy:** Don’t just settle on the first person you meet, like a pair of shoes that pinch your toes. You need the perfect fit that feels fab and you can actually maintain, not just what’s trending on the runway of life.
- **Keep it Real:** Go beyond the glossy cover—an everlasting romance is built on emotional connection and reality, not just a sparkly smile.
- **No Magic Wands:** Brace yourself to adore your partner just as they are, not as a future project. If their quirks make you cringe, it might be time to hit pause.
- **Find Your Cheerleader:** Your partner should be your personal growth coach, not a weight around your ankles. Seek someone who inspires you to level up and become the ultimate version of yourself.
It’s connection without compromise, love without losing your space, desires, or needs. Togetherness that sails smoothly, without stormy drama. Partnership that doesn’t cost you peace or your identity.
It’s all about showing up, being truly seen, and soaking in trust and warmth—forgetting roles and just relishing something real. Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.
See the Whole Canvas:
Slip into their sneakers to truly understand their world.
A stellar partner helps you view life from their lens, fostering empathy and connection that feels like a warm, cosy blanket.
There’s nothing better than the feeling of being understood and connected to someone special.
Money can’t buy you love, so let’s trade in the real currency.
“People should fall in love with their eyes closed. Just close your eyes. Don’t look and it’s magic”
Andy Warhol
Overcome the fear of scarcity. It’s essential to open our hearts. What you resist persists. Let go of self-doubt and embrace gratitude. Master your craft; when you’re in the flow, things feel effortless.
Struggling often comes with resistance and effort.
Address your patterns. Trauma can spike blood glucose levels, creating a need for control.
The immune system reacts to this as a threat, leading to inflammation—it’s a protective response.
Tackle toxic patterns that put stress on the body.
Focus on mind management; remember, I am not my depression—it is not an illness.
I know how to navigate it. Extreme trauma comes with a label, but let’s work to fix it.
I am experiencing it, not defined by it. Addiction is a response, not a disease.
Your mind holds more power than your brain. Acute trauma can trigger a storm in both hemispheres of the brain.
While you can’t change the past, you can begin from where you are and shape a new ending.
Please be aware that the book contains explicit content and a myriad of uncomfortable truths.
Sending you love and magic! Always, Lynnie. ❤
Put on your shoes, you will go somewhere.