Never apologize for being a strong woman. Women are the epitome of beauty, grace, and strength, and we’re sure this collection will prove to you how important women are in the balance of the world.
Borrowed from an article in LinkedIn by Steve Wiens.
Titled … “An Ode to Women Who Are Too Much.”
A celebration of women who are loud and opinionated, in other words, “too much like a guy”.
I have been called many similar adjectives in my over half century of years. I am a brash, competitive, uncompromising, boisterous, gutter-talking girl.
Who loves to drink Ratu rum, eat seafood on the beach, camp under the stars with my fishing knife strapped to my leg, and talk with my hands.
Nothing like the feel of my blonde curls flying wild whilst riding a motorbike. I love tunes from heavy metal to rock and bathroom humor and bars that smell like smoke and sweat. I adore live concerts where people spill drinks on one another and dance with strangers. Where they know it is dancing without benefits. Strong women practice the true meaning of life.
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. However, in order to give it away , someone must receive it … your LOVE .. trust and loyalty
What you see is what you get. So you need to hang with the same crew. They are fiercely loyal, brutally honest (never tell porky pies or make excuses) and make a strong woman laugh until she pees herself or until she catches her breath. When a strong woman meets someone she knows if the connection is real. Goose bumps normally appear tingling through the body.
The following is a brilliant insight and even more so as it was written by a man. When you are told over and over again that you are too much …tone it down a few notches
Men don’t like you because they feel weaker than you. Women don’t like you as they feel intimidated by you. You are too opinionated, too loud, too direct, too sexy, too bossy, too emotional, too moody, too funny. In other words … One of the boys.
This is for all the amazing women who have been labelled “too much” their entire life by the small men and women who couldn’t or didn’t want to see you.
I can see the image of my 3 year old self, hopping on my grandfathers upturned wooden box and singing the story of “be careful little ears what you hear.. be careful little mouths what you speak”.
Let Lynnie be Lynnie my beautiful sensual grandma would say when I did something that broke the definitions of how a girl, young woman and finally a adult woman should act.
Remember … You are never too much. You probably haven’t shown the world enough of you. The next time someone says you are too loud, or saying something inappropriate, just remember you are not alone. You are a diamond amongst the stones. There is a strong community of us out there .. in the words of Lady Gaga … Baby we were born this way.
When you let us go, you may never find the diamond that will shine so bright for you again.
Strong women are often called assertive. They are straightforward about there wants and needs. They often rub people the wrong way. However, women who are strong are complex. They may have a background that has created the need to be gritty, tenacious and passionate in a way that often offends people.
Many are interpreted as demanding or even bossy. But the truth is that strong women can also be very sensitive, sensual, kind and thoughtful.
Here is what Steve writes that strong women bring to all her encounters:
She stands up for herself. Strong women are outspoken when it comes to confronting others about being treated poorly. When an injustice has taken place, they speak up rather than let it roll off. Sometimes to extremes.
She invests in herself. Whether its learning something new, pushing themselves with exercise or to be healthier, or taking a big step outside their comfort zone, these woman know that investments they make for themselves and their life offers guaranteed dividends.
She has boundaries. When a strong woman makes decisions, she checks in with herself first to see if she really wants to do it and has the time and space to invest in an opportunity. She says yes to opportunities which strengthen herself and no to those that diminish.
She celebrates other women.
The strong woman who roots for the other girl, tells a stranger her hair looks amazing
Encourages other women to believe in themselves and their dreams
HATERS ARE GONNA HATE … stop saying sorry all the time. Strong women don’t like to be told sorry so they must learn to not say sorry too.
You’ll need a tribe of people cheering you on as you do this because haters are going to hate. This tribe will cheer your every victory without the petty jealousy that has stifled your ambition. This tribe will get in your face when you actually are too much (and you’ll love them for it) For many of the non-stop stories of sexual harassment, assault, and rape this last month have brought up stories that you’ve struggled to overcome for much of your life.
You’ll need a tribe of people that can rage with and heal with so that your true self care can emerge and stand up straight.
So, Thank you Steve Weins for recognizing strong women are necessary to this world.
A strong woman builds her own world.
She is one who is wise enough to know that it will attract the right man she will gladly share it with.
The strongest actions for any woman is to love herself, be herself and shine among those who never believed she could.