Parenting your inner child from your current adult perspective is one of the most powerful growth tools. Before you begin your journey to healing, there are a few things your inner child needs to hear from you. In order to open up, they need to know they’re safe and they need to know your love (and understanding) for them is unconditional. Once these doors are open, you can take active steps toward your healing and empower yourself to reach out to those who can help.
We have to remember we are ALL the versions/ages of ourselves…
all at once…just with different layers and paradigms and understandings.
We have to show kindness, love and compassion to all versions…
not one is less worthy than the other
For anyone doing this it is a great method to visualize going in to your inner childhood home, greeting your child self at the door, sitting them down in the house somewhere and just talking about how they feel and what they need.
Give them everything they needed to hear back then, you can heal a lot of childhood wounds.
Struggling to connect in your relationships?
An inner child who needs healing might play a part.
Are you wracked by hopelessness? Fears or anxiety that makes it hard for you to function or enjoy pleasure?
Many times, this can be traced back to childhood and the experiences that took place there with our caretakers and those who were meant to protect us.
When we resolve the pain of our pasts, we often find a better way to proceed into the future.
First, focus on accepting your inner child exactly as they are.
Communicate that they are perfect in their own imperfect way, and that they don’t have to “prove themselves” or reach some impossible standard of perfection.
Moving on from acceptance, let them know that nothing that happened to them in the past was their fault.
Children bear no responsibility for the choices made by adults, and that’s especially true for the inner child.
Take that burden from their shoulders and tell them that you understand they’ve always done the best they can to stay strong despite it all.
Cradle them. Kiss them on the forehead. Assure them that they’re safe, and that you see and hear them in all their pain glory.
Give them the unconditional love they’ve always deserved and in that unconditional love empower them to discover a new safety in a happiness.
You can heal your inner child, but you have to do it in love and compassion.
Eat glitter for breakfast & shine all day
Once you have reassured your inner child of your love, look them in the eye and tell them that what happened was not their fault. Let go of all that guilt and all that shame.
Children are innocents, and there was no way for you to fully understand who you were or what you wanted.
You were innocent, and anything beyond that lies on the shoulders of someone else.
Much love to all
What is the one thing you most want to say to your inner child today?
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