No, I don’t love you replied the White Rabbit.
This piece is a work of fan fiction and is not from the delightful book “Alice in Wonderland” by Lewis Carroll.
We all desire those who will love us even when we are at our most difficult.
Such love endures through all circumstances. It’s important to recognize that while we shouldn’t expect universal affection, we still need that deep love from someone.
I could never truly connect with someone who only claims to love me during my happy moments, as I know they would likely abandon me in times of struggle.
These are fair-weather friends, not true soulmates.
Now, let’s discuss this meme that’s circulating on social media. I once met a guy during a period of deep sadness and insecurity, following a long, toxic relationship. The strong young woman I once was had transformed into an insecure girl. He left me, returned, and then departed again. He called, and I let him talk for five hours, during which he admitted to his lies and then abruptly hung up. In that moment, I felt unworthy.
It made me believe that until I became this “perfect self-loving person,” no one would truly love me.
This thought haunted me for some time.
We are all on a journey of self-love, and no one ever truly “arrives.” We must support one another and remind everyone that they are doing their best and are loved for who they are at this very moment, because tomorrow is uncertain.
So let’s stop telling people they are unlovable.
Naturally, the White Rabbit wouldn’t express such sentiments; he’s too busy worrying about being late. Meanwhile, Alice is a confident girl who is unbothered by others’ opinions, which is the ultimate state of inner peace. Perhaps the rabbit symbolizes a part of Alice —the part that recognized the burdensome expectations of life and chose to flee.
This aspect of her could never be captured because it wasn’t her true self.
Could it be that what this fan art conveys is that striving to meet those expectations or trying to become that person prevents her from loving herself?
Maybe it has nothing to do with Alice being perfect or behaving perfectly, but rather with the White Rabbit. He may not be ready to accept love or believe he deserves it from Alice.
We all deserve love, regardless of our past.
Life is incredibly beautiful, yet we often fixate on the black dot on a vast white canvas.
Let’s shift our focus to the white canvas and infuse it with colour.
Alice remember there are rabbits, ready to affirm your feelings, support your dreams, protect your happiness, remind you of your value, remove your insecurities, acknowledge your beauty, LOVE YOUR FLAWS, spoil you, invest in you, and blow your back out.
Please stop wasting your love on someone who act like loving you is hard.
Somebody who loves you isn’t going to keep hurting you. That’s just somebody who doesn’t care but wants to keep you around.
I love you,
Love & light, Xo,