By Lynnie Stein / January 1, 2020

But what does it mean to respect yourself?

Self-respect is a word that means honouring your worth, preserving your dignity, and taking pride in your abilities. Being self-respecting means that you believe at a core level that you’re worthy of being treated fairly and with courtesy. If you focus on the bad actions that you’ve done, you cave yourself into darkness and can’t see the good in life. When you are down, try to remember the good that you’ve done and not the bad, because focusing on negative thoughts leads you to nothingness in the end. It’s hard to overcome some self-respect issues, but when you’re able to look in the mirror and smile and tell yourself you’re a beautiful person, it is an amazing feeling.

  • If you’ve been through trauma, have been abused, or have been betrayed by a friend, spouse, or partner, it can be hard to respect yourself.
  • After all, the people who hurt you did not respect you, so you may have started believing you were unworthy of respect.
  • But because you were created for a unique purpose, and there’s no one like you, you are worthy of respect and dignity.

RESPECT yourself enough TO KNOW you deserve NOTHING BUT the best

What do you think. This is borrowed on a story of a life lesson????

  • Good people give you happiness.
  • Bad people give you experience.
  • The worst people give you a lesson.
  • And, the best people give you memories.
  • A healthy relationship will keep and bring memories.
  • In a romantic situation .. It is where two independent people make a deal they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.
  • In a manipulative relationship, one person is used for the benefit of another.
  • Manipulators share some common characteristics:
  • They know how to detect others’ weaknesses; once found, they use these weaknesses against you; they convince you to give up something in order to serve their self-centred interests.
  • Knowing your self worth and standing up for yourself are two important keys in dealing with a manipulator.
  • The more you allow someone to drag you down, the more your self-worth will suffer.
  • Protect your self-worth … the right to be treated with self respect.
  • The right to express your feelings and opinions… the right to say NO without feeling guilty… the right to protect yourself from being physically, emotionally and mentally harmed.
  • Last and certainly not least … the right to live a happy, healthy life.

I am no longer giving ANYONE the benefit of the doubt.

You are what you show me.

Say NO and mean it

  • Say NO if they are trying to get you to do what you don’t want to do.
  • They will use all the tricks they can think to try and get you to do something even after saying NO.
  • You have the basic right to say no without feeling guilty.
  • Be strong, don’t allow anyone to make you feel guilty, and stand your ground!
  • If they won’t take no and keep badgering you .. walk away and find a safe place.
  • Keep your distance They tend to live with extremes; being incredible polite and then suddenly becoming extremely rude.
  • If you observe extreme behaviour’s on a regular basis, keep a healthy distance, and avoid being around the toxic person unless you absolutely have to.
  • If you have to deal with them, such as in a work situation, make the interaction as brief as possible.

“Of course you aren’t going to fit in.

You’re living from a heart in a world filled with people who have forgotten they even have one..”

— Kalen Dion – Art by Kalen

Avoid self blame

  • You are not the problem.
  • You are simply being manipulated to feel bad about yourself so that you’re more likely to surrender your power and rights.
  • Put the focus on them try asking …
  • Does what you want from me seem fair?
    Does this seem reasonable to you?
    Do you really expect me to (re-state the request)?
    Would you do this if I asked you to?
  • It is like putting up a mirror so the manipulator can see that they’re being unreasonable.

But what does it mean to respect yourself?

Is it considering your own rights?

Empathising with your own experiences?

Admiring your own accomplishments?

The short answer is yes, it’s all the same forms of respect—simply applied to yourself.

You’re not hard to love; you’ve just run into a few who didn’t know how to.

If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.

The work we do on ourselves becomes our gift to everyone else.

Self-respect is understanding and honouring your own needs.

  • It’s knowing your worth and acting accordingly.
  • If you feel you can work more on your self-respect, consider identifying your values, setting boundaries, and nurturing your needs through self-care.
  • You should respect yourself because you’re a human being.
  • All living beings are worthy of respect.
  • Don’t let the ideas of others, failed relationships, or abusive people in your life prevent you from thinking that you’re worthy of respect.
  • In your life, you’re the most important person you need to take care of.
  • Before loving yourself, you need to respect yourself.
  • There’s no such thing as self-love without self-respect. 

 Clear out the junk in your mind that holds you back with a bit of meditation.

Pamper yourself with some self-care to show others you respect yourself.

Stand up for yourself when people put you down or try to add self-limiting beliefs in your mind.

When you respect yourself, others follow suit to respect you too. So, lead by example and show others what self-respect is all about. 

Strong women aren’t born, they’re forged in the fire’s they’ve had to walk through.

They’re warriors with hearts of gold.

— Silver Ravenwolf – Mind Journal

Before embarking on a relationship with someone…

  • tell them that you value respect in your relationships.
  • Don’t be afraid to lose someone you barely know by not being upfront about this.
  • Directly tell them that without respect, you won’t stick around.
  • And you aren’t afraid to walk away from something disrespectful.
  • Setting the tone early on shows the other person that you have self-respect and require respect from them too.
  • Making this known will make your journey of respecting yourself much easier because the line has been drawn, with expectations laid out. 

A lot of problems in the world would disappear if we



Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

My words will either attract a strong mind or offend a weak one.

Many people who lack self-respect get addicted to the drama of those around them.

Don’t be that person.

Start exploring hobbies, interests, and projects outside of other people.

You do not understand your features.

Your features are not your beautiful nose, your beautiful cheeks, beautiful lips, and so on.

These are not your features.

Your features are your beautiful behaviour, your beautiful character, your beautiful health, your beautiful spirit, your beautiful advice, your beautiful wisdom, your beautiful inspiration.”

~ Yogi Bhajan 

There is no such thing as loss in the Universe.

Anything I “lose” will be returned to me in another form or replaced with something better.

  • Another advantage of having self-respect is that you give yourself permission to follow your dreams and goals – instead of getting lost in managing or peddling everyone else’s BS.
  • Now doesn’t this sound like a big sigh of relief!?

Some people will be mad at you for not being who they want you to be.

One of the biggest forms of self-betrayal is living your life by their rules instead of your own.

Your task is simple.

  • Be kind.
  • Be real.
  • Be humble.
  • Keep growing.
  • and unapologetically live your best life.

You deserve the best.

To have stable self-respect, you need to love yourself from the inside out, not the outside in.

Does that make sense?



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