Buckle up for the divine dance of the cosmic masculine and feminine!
Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.
When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.
You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.
When you find someone who makes you feel the same way music does, that’s when you found someone special.
Discover someone who gazes at you like I gaze at a buffet of fabulous food! ❤️ #relationshipgoals
He looked at her as if seeing a shooting star for the first time, every detail of her lovely face etched in his mind. The rain added an extra sparkle to her beauty in the dark, her charm shining dimly, stealing his heart. She melted into his arms like a boat in the sea, “Wherever I go, you’re my guarantee.” His embrace, firm yet gentle as a breeze, held her close on that damp, dark night with ease. Rooted like trees, they stood their ground, thunder rolling softly, drawing them bound. The rumble drew her nearer, no cause for alarm, bringing her closer to the safety of his arm. “Dancing in this rain is pure bliss, with you, I long to exist.” He stroked her damp hair, so tenderly, her words and touch lifting his spirits free. There they dance, amid thunder and rain, only for each other, no sorrow, no pain. In the thunder’s embrace, they hold tight, a bond no force could ever smite.
What do you really want in a relationship?
Open communication, loyalty, honesty, understanding, kindness, compassion, trust, emotional vulnerability, and willingness to forgive are some of the most important things that keep a relationship afloat.
Make some sweet music with that perfect combo of Best Friend Chemistry, Sexual Chemistry, and Mutual Respect.
Bonus points if you’re a happy-go-lucky dude with a secure attachment style.
Secure Attachment Style: Understanding its Characteristics
Individuals with a secure attachment style exhibit empathy and are capable of setting appropriate boundaries.
They often feel secure, steady, and content in their intimate relationships.
While they are comfortable with independence, they thrive in close and meaningful connections.
Going beyond mere sympathy, true empathy involves stepping into their shoes and resonating with their emotional rhythm.
In relationships, empathy is essential for two main reasons: It reveals a hidden layer to understand your partner better, and It strengthens the bond between both partners.
Sure, being an empathy champ every single time can be a tough gig.
Yet, sprinkling empathy in relationships might just be the magic potion that keeps the connection thriving.
Empathy is a superpower that lets you step into someone else’s world, thoughts, and emotions.
It’s the ultimate tool to swap perspectives, peek through their unique glasses, and vibe with what they’re feeling.
There’s nothing better than the feeling of being understood and connected to someone special.
Money can’t buy you love, so trade in the real currency.
It’s about two strong individuals joining forces to inspire each other to be the best they can be.
A relationship built on mutual respect and emotional support, where you grow to understand each other’s quirks and share deepest desires.
A bond that protects each other’s happiness and loves without limits.
The Secret Sauce? Open communication, attentive listening, and keeping up the romance.
Let’s talk about being head over heels in love! Can you dive deep into her world, connecting with her inside out? If not, best not to play pretend with emotions. Keep it real, or better stick to what you know!
#1 TO BE SAFE!
Dudes, You have to see, hear, feel and understand her.
This is what makes you safe to a woman.
For this reason, if you really want to have a relationship with a woman, the single most important thing you will ever learn how to do is the art of Attunement and to commit yourself completely to being trustworthy.
It’s the ability to tune in and connect with another person on an emotional level, creating a sense of understanding, validation, and support.
Let’s Party for Love with Emotional Attunement
Creating emotional harmony in relationships is like tending to a quirky plant – it needs both partners to sprinkle time, effort, and dedication.
Think of it as a slow-cooked stew, not a microwave meal; with a dash of effort and heaps of patience, you’ll whip up a heart-warming bond that spices up your relationship.
So, keep in mind, emotional Attunement is all about tuning into your partner’s feelings like a sweet melody, being there, understanding, and responding to their emotional tunes.
When you prioritize emotional connection and actively work towards attuning to each other, you create a foundation for a fulfilling and harmonious relationship.
So, embrace the power of Emotional Attunement by no longer seeing your partner through how you want them to be, but by really seeing them for who they are.
If you can give and receive that level of Attunement in your relationship, you will see your connection with each other flourish with a deeper sense of understanding, empathy, and love.
When these two forces collide, sparks fly, creating a technicolour whirlwind of a life.
Picture a world so stunning it’s almost painful, so fulfilling you’ll never feel parched, and so freeing it’ll make your head spin.
Anything less than this magical, soulful wonderland is a total bummer!
There’s nothing hotter than a man who fearlessly delves into the depths of his own heart, who can face his vulnerabilities head-on, and who eagerly shows up when you need him most.
A man who speaks his mind with passion, rather than brushing off his feelings with a casual “I’m fine.”
Imagine a man who isn’t afraid to shed a tear, who lets you see him at his most vulnerable, with his heart laid bare.
And oh, the thrill of a man who knows how to care for a woman – touching her with both tenderness and intensity, loving her fiercely while gazing into the depths of her soul, setting her free while claiming her as his own, making her feel like the divine goddess she truly is.
Strap in for the celestial tango of the universe’s yin and yang!
But wait, it gets even better!
A man who kisses as if each moment is his last, who cherishes each breath, and who dreams of conquering the world together, setting the universe on fire with your love, transcending darkness to reach unimaginable heights.
And let’s not forget the man who proudly declares his love for you, intertwining his fingers with yours in a whirlwind of passion, unafraid to dive into the depths of your darkness, and willing to shout his love for you from the rooftops like a rock anthem.
A man who is unapologetically himself, holding space for you to blossom and grow alongside him.
In a world filled with chaos and uncertainty, nothing is more attractive than a man who loves himself, who values the truth that flows through his veins, and who stands by you through every storm and every moment of bliss.
This is the kind of man you deserve – a man who isn’t afraid to feel, who shows up wholeheartedly, and who craves every ounce of your authentic, earthy goddess energy.
So, let him kiss you with every fibre of his being, reminding you of the fierce, radiant woman you truly are.
My legendary grandpa once spilled the beans that finding a gem like my grandma is like discovering a unicorn – tough, loyal, and simplyuntameable.
Among the regular fillies out there, you stumble upon thoroughbreds, show ponies, and workhorses, until you hit the jackpot with a unicorn.
She’s a stunner, a brain-iac without the pocket protector, a fortress of strength and independence.
She’s got that classy vibe – oozing grace, confidence, and a wardrobe that screams “I am unique!”
She respects, she cares, and boy, does she stand out.
Enter my enchanting grandma- the unicorn of his life story.
Their love was a mesmerizing fairy-tale of its own kind!
They were the ultimate relationship goals – Grandma Unicorn starting each day with, “How can I sprinkle some magic on your day, Grandpa?” And then came the twist from grandpa… “On a scale of 1 to 10, how much sparkle do you bring today?” If it was a 9, Grandpa would wink and say, “I’ll be your perfect 10, let’s rock this day!”
But let’s face it, love isn’t always about a perfect 50/50 split.
It’s about being a tag team through all the ups and downs, coming out stronger together!
Having each others back through think and thin.
The idiom “through thick and thin” means to support or be loyal to someone or something, even when things are difficult.
ARE WE TALKING ABOUT SUPERWOMEN?
Strong Women – OH, THEY DON’T PLAY WITH ATTITUDES; THEY COME PACKED WITH STANDARDS AND BOUNDARIES.
AS “STEVE WEIN” SAID, GOD MADE EVE FOR ADAM, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.
WHEN LADIES REALIZE THEY’RE THE REAL MVPs, WATCH OUT WORLD!
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO MATCH YOUR HUSTLE.
NO TIME TO CHASE AFTER THOSE WHO DON’T GIVE A HOOT ABOUT YOU. ZIP IT!
YOU CAN’T CONTROL WHO SWOONS OVER YOU, BUT YOU CAN SURE AS HECK CONTROL WHO GETS A FRONT-ROW SEAT TO YOUR LIFE’S SHOW.
WHO CARES ABOUT LOOKS?
LET’S TALK ABOUT HER CRAZY WORK ETHIC, HER UNSTOPPABLE DRIVE, AND HER OUT-OF-THIS-WORLD SOUL! SHE MAKES HER OWN DOUGH, SO ALL A GUY CAN OFFER IS GOOD OL’ LOYALTY.
STRONG WOMEN DON’T NEED MUCH, YOU’RE JUST NOT PUTTING IN THE WORK.
SHE’S A BEAUTY THAT GOES BEYOND SKIN-DEEP; HER ESSENCE TOUCHES YOUR SOUL IN WAYS THE WORLD CAN’T EVEN GRASP.
STRONG WOMEN NEED MEN WHO CAN HANDLE THEIR TRUTH BOMBS WITHOUT FLINCHING.
FELLAS WHO LISTEN AND ARE UP FOR A REAL CHAT.
NO TIME FOR BEATING AROUND THE BUSH. STRAIGHT TALK ONLY; AMBIGUITY’S A NO-GO.
STRONG WOMEN DESERVE A SPACE TO SPREAD THEIR WINGS.
NO CLINGY VIBES HERE. THEY NEED SUPPORT, NOT HANDCUFFS.
CONFIDENCE IS KEY. NO ROOM FOR BOOSTING EGOS HERE.
THERE’S NO TIME TO BE A MAN’S EMOTIONAL CHEERLEADER. THAT’S MUMMY’S JOB.
THEY NEED A GUY WHO’S SECURE IN HIS SKIN.
STRONG WOMEN CRAVE DEEP, PASSIONATE LOVE.
NO HALF-HEARTEDNESS HERE.
THEY WANT THAT SOUL-SHAKING CONNECTION.
THEY’RE ON THE HUNT FOR A LIFE ENRICHMENT PACKAGE – SOMEONE WHO BRINGS VALUE TO THE TABLE.
STRONG WOMEN CRAVE THAT DEEP BONDING. IT TAKES A REAL MAN TO DIVE INTO THOSE WATERS.
NO ROOM FOR THE ON-AGAIN-OFF-AGAIN DRAMA.
STRONG WOMEN DESERVE SOMEONE WHO STAYS PUT!
The ruination of relationships : unrealistic expectations and unresolved childhood trauma.
Discover how to nurture your inner child, heal past wounds, and find new joy and energy in life. And what better way to explore this journey than with a delightful journal that’s filled with prompts and space for self-reflection?
Childhood Trauma can trigger impulsive behaviour, leading to actions we later regret.
Living with trauma can become an ongoing attempt to avoid facing emotions head-on.
Instead of confronting these difficult emotions, which may be too intense or painful, we resort to coping mechanisms like shopping, drinking, smoking, gambling, overeating, rushing into relationships, or agreeing to things hastily. The urge to find quick relief often ends up worsening our emotional state.
Reckless and harmful behaviours are prominent signs of PTSD as outlined in the DSM-5.
To reduce impulsivity, it is crucial to prioritize proper sleep and nutrition.
Practicing mindfulness through controlled breathing allows us to pause and truly experience and comprehend our emotions rather than reacting impulsively.
This process requires effort, persistence, and a great deal of self-compassion.
Recall a time when you were betrayed; your body sensed the truth. You were aware of their deception, perhaps attempting to show more love. Our bodies constantly offer guidance; we’ve simply grown accustomed to ignoring it.
By consciously considering, “What choice would the healthiest version of myself make in this moment?” we initiate the journey towards creating a new and healthier lifestyle
The questions to ask yourself are: Do I accept my partner, do I appreciate him/her, and do I acknowledge her?
Many people did not receive “good enough” parenting. As a result, they may keep their significant other at a distance to avoid the childhood pain of not being accepted or not having anyone there for them emotionally.
They may sabotage their relationships by becoming demanding or controlling.
Or they may unconsciously select a relationship that recreates the childhood dynamic of working so hard to receive attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing.
We never outgrow the healthy need to receive the A’s.
Even if you didn’t receive enough of this type of love in the past, you can still have the healthy, loving, secure relationship you desire.
Remember the last A – Actions – words mean nothing! “I am here for You” so much better then the 3 letter word.
Love doesn’t always go our way. And it won’t always feel good.
But it can become a secure bond of true trust, which is the ultimate reward.
Adult love isn’t what they can give me??? It’s: how we can grow together.
What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned in love?
You deserve the love you try keeping for everyone else!
You need self-love. One of the most important lessons of love is that self-love is non-negotiable.
Don’t beat yourself up for falling for someone who ended up being a total plot twist. Instead, pat yourself on the back for holding onto that rare belief in the best of others. Don’t let it toughen you up. Take notes, but keep that heart as mushy as a marshmallow.
We replicate the exact same childhood wounding with toxic relationships.
Never give your love to somebody who doesn’t know what to do with it.
Love teaches forgiveness.
Your soulmate could turn into your cellmate if commitment isn’t on their agenda!
Beware of anyone with an avoidant attachment style!
These people crave connection but when they get it they feel fear of engulfment and loss of independence.
Their independence is a strategy formed during childhood as a way of coping with their caregivers not being emotionally available.
If you are rejected accept. If you are unloved let go. If they choose someone or something over you, move on.
Remember, that in every NO from someone is a yes to someone better.
Bob Marley is quoting as saying:
The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love with no intention of loving her.
Transform your world by holding onto your power tight like a favourite snack.
Your happiness is your superpower, and nobody can swipe that from you.
Remember, you can’t play magician and change folks around you. We can only rock our own glow-up.
When pain knocks on your door, let it know you have better plans.
Shower yourself with love, understanding, and respect.
Patience is the secret sauce today, paving the way for a bright tomorrow with a special someone.
And hey, if today’s vibe doesn’t match, wave goodbye and strut forward.
“Please don’t make me pay” she whispered as he held me so close “Pay for what?” he asked thoughtful. “All their mistakes.”
Ever felt like a broken record with relationships?
Time to break that loop and learn the lesson.
Even if Dad’s spacey now, we can mend those fatherly ties and heal our hearts.
If abandonment whispers in your past, forgiveness is your knight in shining armour.
Guard your heart till it’s in good hands, and remember, boundaries are like your personal bodyguards. Know what you want, plant your flag, and watch new doors swing open.
“Don’t give away the milk until he buys the cow!”
Quality peeps attract quality peeps, but watch out for those sneaky players.
Healthy chats are like vitamins for relationships.
No matter your attachment style, a true pro will talk it out.
When life throws lemons, take a breather, look around, and find your groove again.
Embrace the pain, the change, and the journey – it’s the first step to healing.
Shower yourself with love, ask yourself, “What’s the best for me?” and dance to your own beat.
I believe in real love, and it all starts with me.
First, Get ready for a lifetime of love, passion, and connection with your body!
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.
Love feels like it’s supposed to come naturally, but it actually requires quite a bit of learning.
Instincts for love and attachment require some level of conscious control, unless they’d run wild and unbalanced.
Love is more than a feeling, love is a skill.
Becoming an adult means knowing lust is a feeling and love is an action!
It requires action and practice, to not only get it right, but to keep it going strong and healthy.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling lust. Lust means we’re alive – we’re human.
And there can be magic in that mysterious pull to another person.
We go through stages when we’re young where lust drives our choices.
And when we have to actually show up and have difficult conversations and resolve conflicts – we struggle big time.
The feelings (mostly hormonal) are gone and we think the relationship is too.
We continue this pattern for a few years. Usually from relationship to relationship.
Until we are deeply suffering. Feeling confused. And alone and lost.
This is the disillusionment phase.
And it’s also our opportunity to mature.
To learn that love in not just a feeling – it’s consistent action.
Learning how to give out love is important because love is often misunderstood.
We mistake infatuation with love.
We mistake obsession with love.
We mistake overprotectiveness with love.
We mistake co-dependency with love.
Therefore, we must learn how to:
Love someone for who they are, not our idea of who they’re supposed to be.
Accept your partner for who they are and not for they’re not. If your trying to change a person to what you want your standards to be then the relationship becomes controlling on ones part or maybe even both if both parties have the same mindset. Which means downhill.
Love someone enough to set them free. A relationship that ended is not a failed relationship.
People grow, so it is natural relations will change. A failed relationship is the one that continues even though it is time it ended. Free each other.
Love someone enough to let them make their own mistakes.
Love someone without losing our own identity in the process. Be yourself, always. NO mask. No lies. Be vulnerable.
Attraction has no respect for compatibility.
Mid-life crisis seems to have no age requirement anymore, because humanity is rapidly accelerating into facing truth, dispelling inauthenticity and it keeps getting harder and harder to from one’s self.
We see this in every aspect of life, individually and collectively. The world seems to have gone batshit, and rightly so. To see the mess, is the only way to heal the mess.
Butterflies aren’t always good, but someone who soothes your nervous system is a gift.
The hard part is finding someone who is truly in touch with their authentic truth (wants, needs and desires.)
It’s important to learn how to give out love, but it’s equally as important to learn how to let it come in.
To receive love, we have to let ourselves be vulnerable.
We have to be brave enough to let others see us for who we are, and love us despite our flaws.
To let love come in, we first need to accept and love ourselves so that once we see our qualities and flaws reflected back to us in the eyes of those who loves us, we won’t fall apart.
Closing ourselves to love is easier than it sounds.
Sometimes, a tsunami of agony hits us, and we’re left wondering:
Am I living my best life?
Am I spreading oodles of love? Am I being the real me?
Fearful of what others will think?
We start asking ourselves, “Who am I, really? What’s my purpose? And what makes my soul dance with joy?”
Letting love come in requires us to drop down our barriers, and it can be one of the most difficult things to do.
Love is a major component of a fulfilling life, but to make it a healthy part of our lives, we must learn how to give it out and let it come.
We must practice love, and let ourselves receive it.
“I love You” …We are all unique, but not different, we all want the same thing: to be loved, listened to and respected.
The mirrors of self-awareness may reflect shadows you’ve long evaded, unveiling truths both grand and subtle.
Rest assured, the blossoms of this journey shall bear fruits of transformation.
“I only do nice things for people who treat me with respect”. As you mend, your perspective transforms. You start craving respect over attention, draw firm boundaries rather than tolerating disrespect, prioritize real connections over clingy bonds, encourage mutual support instead of co-dependency, cherish deep intimacy over shallow meshing, and prioritize internal love over outside validation. Healing trumps coping and trauma bonding every time!
Love is my new BFF! It’s like Cupid is showering me with heart emojis 24/7.
Sending Love Beams Your Way! 🦄
Hey hey, I’m Lynnie Stein, the genius behind The Gut Academy and the mastermind crafting The Shades of Magic Series.
Let the warm fuzzies, giggles, and love spells surround you today and every day! 💖🌟
The Gut Academy is where I whip up jars full of veggie goodness, sprinkle some positivity, and top it all off with a big dollop of gratitude. On the flip side, Shades of Magic is my way of sending love notes to my 18-year-old self, my awesome son Thierry, and every rad kid out there who deserves epic connections.
