We all have the superpower to boost ourselves by being top-notch in mind, heart, and body, while celebrating the one-of-a-kind talents we each bring to the party.

A healthy relationship is not finding the perfect match, it’s about choosing an ideal mate…where two independent people make a deal they will help the other person be the best version of themselves and protect each others hearts.

Sure, they won’t be perfect, but fast forward 25 years, and you might exclaim, “We were a perfect match! We brought out each other’s best!”

It’s connection without compromise, love without losing your space, desires, or needs. Togetherness that sails smoothly, without stormy drama. Partnership that doesn’t cost you peace or your identity.

It’s all about showing up, being truly seen, and soaking in trust and warmth—forgetting roles and just relishing something real. Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.

At its core, this statement challenges the emphasis placed on physical attraction and external appearances in matters of love. It proposes that love is not contingent upon what we see with our eyes but is, instead, a deeply emotional and spiritual connection that occurs when we close ourselves off from superficial judgments.

The quote encourages us to consider the power of emotional intimacy and connection in forming meaningful relationships. By urging us to “fall in love with our eyes closed,” it implies that genuine love is rooted in the depths of our hearts and souls, where superficial qualities are irrelevant.

Furthermore, this statement may be interpreted as a call for authenticity in love and relationships. It suggests that love is most genuine when we can look beyond the surface and connect with the true essence of a person. In this sense, it prompts us to appreciate the value of vulnerability and openness in forming deep connections with others.

In a broader context, the quote encourages us to rethink our cultural obsession with physical beauty and external appearances. It implies that our preoccupation with looks can sometimes blind us to the deeper qualities and potential for love that exist in others. It challenges us to prioritize emotional and spiritual compatibility over superficial attractions.

Additionally, the quote evokes the idea of love as a mysterious and magical force that defies explanation. By suggesting that “it’s magic,” it imbues love with a sense of wonder and enchantment, emphasizing that love is something that transcends rational understanding.

In conclusion, “People should fall in love with their eyes closed. Just close your eyes. Don’t look and it’s magic” offers a poetic and profound perspective on love. It challenges our preconceived notions about the role of physical appearance in relationships and encourages us to embrace the depth and magic of emotional and spiritual connections. Ultimately, it reminds us that love is a force that goes beyond what we see with our eyes and is, indeed, a form of enchantment.

Here’s to everyone living their most epic life!

1. Accurately gauge the highest-quality person you can attract. If you have low self-esteem, you will likely choose someone with low self-esteem, and your relationship will be disastrous.
2. So, work on your self-esteem and make sure it’s solid. Get healthy in mind, body, and spirit, and you will attract that. When considering mates, take chances and shoot higher than you normally might. Be patient. If you are healthy, you will be able to attract the right person for you.
3. Learn how to date and hold on to your heart while getting to know someone. Dating is a look-see process, like test-driving a car. It means nothing until you decide it does. It used to annoy me on dating apps when men would assume I was interested because I agreed to meet. My attitude was, no, I need to meet to see if I am interested. When you start talking to someone of romantic interest, take any false mask down and be yourself. Get to know the person you have met, spend time finding out their beliefs, values, dreams, and goals, etc. See if the person can emotionally connect, is well-balanced and mature, and if their personality fits and is a match for you. It will be smooth and easy if it is a fit, and there won’t be drama and turmoil. Walk away at the first sight of incompatibility and red flags.
4. If it looks like a match and you desire to delve into a romance, then do it.
5. But always be willing to walk away if the weather changes or it becomes too difficult.

The choice of a life mate is the biggest one you will ever make.

Be discerning. Don’t overlook things you shouldn’t. Be willing to walk away. If you feel you are in a hurry, then go to a therapist and figure out why you can’t be patient and mindful about finding a good fit. Being in a hurry screams that something is not right with you emotionally, and these things are fixable.

Anyway, I want all single people to prepare themselves to be excellent mates and to do that by getting to the healthiest place they possibly can before hanging that shingle out that says they’re available.

Finding the right person is it an art and a science or what?

The “art” is considered

• Emotional Connection: This includes the intuitive feeling and passion you share with someone. 
• Chemistry and Compatibility: It’s about recognizing a unique connection and compatibility that goes beyond logic. 
• Creative Expression: Like any art form, finding a partner involves creativity and imagination in how you approach your search and build a relationship. 

The “science” is considered

• Understanding Human Behaviour: This involves studying relationship dynamics, identifying patterns in your past choices, and understanding what traits are important in a partner. 
• Strategic Search: This is the methodical part of meeting new people, like working on yourself, pursuing hobbies, and using dating profiles strategically. 
• Building Trust: Scientific research, such as that by Dr. John Gottman, shows that certain behaviours, like calmness and peace in a relationship, foreshadow long-term success. 
• Shared Values: A logical approach is to identify shared values and goals to ensure a solid foundation for the future…However, according to psychologists, couples often thrive better when partners have different personality traits, interests, strengths and weaknesses. Successful marriages require complementary skills – where one is weak, the other is strong. And according to Esther Perel, psychologist and author of Mating In Captivity, sustaining desire in a marriage requires difference, a little mystery, and continually learning new things about (and from) each other.

In 1871, Charles Darwin wrote about selecting mates in his book The Descent of Man, explaining that some people have more advantages than others when it comes to human mating and attracting mates. You have the power to give yourself the advantages by being the best mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy and accurately acknowledging the unique and special gifts you bring to the table.

Make certain you are prepared to be the best partner you can, be patient, don’t ignore red flags, shoot high, and don’t settle.

The bottom line is that there’s really no short cut to finding your match. To be successful in online dating, the experts’ advice remains the same: be pro-active, contact lots of people, meet up quickly (ideally within two weeks of first contact), be patient and persistent, and keep an open mind about who might be the right person for you. It’ll give you the best chance of meeting someone who, while they might not be picked out as your perfect match by a computer program, could surprise you by being the perfect partner for you.

Those who use a cookbook to prepare a meal often adhere to the recipe as closely as possible, believing this will yield the most delicious results.

I’m a foodie rebel—cooking without a recipe is my jam! While some people stick to cookbooks like glue, believing that’s the secret sauce to yummy dishes, French chefs treat recipes like a friendly nudge rather than strict orders. They know that winging it can make a dish shine brighter!

Love’s the same, right? Some folks try to measure it out like a perfect soufflé, and then wonder why their relationships taste a little bland.

In Europe they embrace love as an art, not a science, which is a stark contrast to the American approach of lab-coat romance. Maybe that’s why some find love stories lacking in spice!

The quick way to my heart…Just be yourself and let’s share laughs! We can chat about our passions, embrace goofiness, and embark on adventures together. Support each other’s dreams, tackle challenges, and offer care when needed. Let’s make each other feel special. I am excited about meeting that person who does everything so right that my heart sings with joy when he walks in the room.

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