You are an energy within as LOVE. Be whole.
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who never deserved you.
Forgiving ourselves from abandoning the young parts of ourselves who were screaming for liberation and never had a chance to be truly heard.
It is forgiving ourselves from buying into the belief that something was wrong with us because we absorb too much of our childhood surroundings, pain and projections.
There is a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in Love with you along the way.
It doesn’t need to be painful or empty.
In a society run on warfare ideology, it’s easy to turn that against ourselves.
Forgiveness is key.
The only person to forgive is ourselves (no blame) No one else deserves our forgiveness more.
Forgiveness is such an art and a constant unfolding.
Give yourself grace.
Most peeps are at war with themselves their entire life.
Remember, you are an energy of LOVE within.
You don’t need anyone to ‘complete’ you.
Many hold grudges with themselves, shaming themselves, punishing themselves.
Self forgiveness is the path to awakening.
Love … becomes a whole being on your own.
When we forgive ourselves, we make a conscious effort to make peace with ourselves and to stop demanding perfection that doesn’t exist for humans.
Ways to Practice Self Forgiveness
- Go on solo adventures, fall asleep at the beach or in the forest with friends.
2. Wander around the city, sit in a coffee shop by yourself, see a movie, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, have manicures, bubble baths, give to others, smile a lot, listen to music and affirmations and funnies, laugh loud and proud.
3. Write, write and write some more!
Spend 30 days waking up every morning journaling.
Write how you forgive yourself for all of your past and how you choose self acceptance.
Keeping a journal and the power of consistency is key.
It is a great way to commit and show up for ourselves each day.
4. Walk in Nature.
Notice when in thought loops of negativity, self shaming, or being self critical.
Pause & move your body to shift your thoughts.
Take a walk.
5. Regularly say to yourself “I forgive myself.”
“I did the best I could”
” I am human & allowed to make mistakes”.
6. Keep small promises to yourself every day.
You’ll begin to trust your own word.
7. Releasing resentment, regret & shame is key.
Don’t let regret creep in.
Forget the past, talking about your ex, will make you think you need an apology.
In reality we need to forgive ourselves.
We are only human.
8. Forgive , forgive, forgive.
Let go of self-judgement and criticism.
You will become a lot more compassionate with yourself.
Embrace the humanness in all.
To let go, in part, to be grateful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.
9. BE Patient with yourself as shifting these outdated patterns takes effort & time.
10. Acknowledge your wins along the way!
Do all things for you with LOVE.
A hand on the head and one on the heart…
I AM here.
I AM doing my best.
I trust the truth in my heart.
I am Ok.
I am safe.
I am loved.
Don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it.
Because you are it.
Onwards & Upwards
“Everything will be okay in the end. And if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”John Lennon
We expect so much of ourselves, us humans – grand gestures, bestselling accomplishments, astounding legacies, life-changing heroics…Fair enough.
We have an outsized impact on our world, and there are certain responsibilities coming with that.
As Neil deGrasse Tyson, Astrophysics for People in a Hurry, points out – “We are stardust brought to life, then empowered by the universe to figure itself out—and we have only just begun.”
“made up of cosmic fragments of infinite proportion.”
But then again…isn’t everything?
Doesn’t this make the efforts of an orb-weaver spider patiently fixing her web in the early morning sunlight just as important as those of a billionaire blasting into space?
Let’s say it does.
Let’s say this past year, you’ve rediscovered the importance of the little things, the myriad fragments of stardust that make up the mundanities of our everyday lives.
Perhaps it’s brought you joy, given you a new perspective, or helped you determine what’s most important to you.
The process could have served as a mental respite or shown you how to better support you and your loved ones.
And while it hurts, you can choose YOURSELF + new people.
Whatever you have achieved, accepted, experienced, embraced, or acknowledged – know it (and you) as valuable.
And simply the first step to experiencing many more everyday miracles to come.
Big love, Xo, Lynnie
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