A healthy relationship is where two independent people just make a deal that they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.
Every relationship is different, and there is no single test to tell you for sure whether yours is healthy.
However, asking yourself a few probing ? can help you hone in on any prob’s and tackle sooner rather than later.
Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier,
1. Do you feel as though you can be authentic around this person?
In a healthy relationship, both peeps feel loved and accepted for who you are.
Never change who you are! So much wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not.
It is easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity.
2. Do you feel excited by the prospect of growing old with this person?
Everybody deserves someone who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently INCONSISTENT and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go.
3. Do you feel yourself opening up and as though you can tell this person anything?
To share your dreams and listen to there dreams?
4. Do you have any suspicions at all they may be cheating, telling excuses or porky pies? GET YOUR RUNNING SHOES ON… trust is the key to a healthy relationship. Get rid of old insecurities and any jealousy. You need to be able to trust that your partner will be loyal and restrain themselves in the face of temptation. True communication will stop an unhappy person from wanting anyone else. “I understand you” is so more important than “I love you”.
Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to. When you completely trust a person. without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.
In the end you will discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you.
Want each other like no one else for eternity.
5. To protect your happiness
If you are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness – let it go! If you allow peeps to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it. Know when to close the account.
It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self respect.
Be the greatest version of you .. you deserve to be loved and felt special everyday
Be grateful for what you do have .. Love is all we need
Life is a miracle … this world is an amazing place … go create magic.
6. Give space?
We don’t need to share the same hobbies to be 100% compatible
Don’t be needy.. allow partners to share with friends and outside relationship activities
Life is short… none of us are guaranteed life on this earth… live fully. LOVE
I LOVE YOU
7. Are you kind and happy?
I know you have a big heart … use it
If you made a mistake … take responsibility. The past is gone. Don’t worry about the future.
Be Happy for Today… we come into this life with nothing and leave with nothing
So spend more of what makes you happy… It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. True friendship and true love is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time.
2 ears not for listening to what people speak but guiding to what they do. Your true love will slowly reveal themselves over time.
“Your time is precious. Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t realise that you are too.”
– Robert Tew
8. We can’t force anyone to love us
We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave us. That’s what love is all about – freedom! However, how hard it can be in the moment, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves us for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.
Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you. However, it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.
The problem with being empathetic is that you even feel sorry for people who hurt you.
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9. INTIMATE (IN-TO-ME-C) RELATIONSHIP
Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.
It’s about what is going on in the inside.
What you live for.
What defines you.
The depth of your heart.
What make you unique.
Being who you are and living out your life honestly.
People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face, or hot body won’t stay by your side forever.
People who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.
“We don’t need to explain our love
We only need to show it”
– Paulo Coelho
10. Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on.
We think it’s too hard to let go of something that has become a habit, until the habit is broken. Than we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t this happen sooner?”
And the one thing you should always hold onto is HOPE. Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward. Someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you have anticipated. and you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?”
You deserve a partner who will spoil you with respect, loyalty, honesty, affection, and unconditional love.